My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3yrs and its been like this for months but we only have sex liek 1 time a week 2 if Im extreamly lucky.. We're both 19 and we love eachother or so I hope he loves me.. But he told me that sex isn't always on his mind anymore..I feel that he dont love me and he's not attracted to me but all of his friends want to get with me I dont get it!?!?!Whats going on?? And what am I doing wrong??
2006-10-10 13:54:58 · 19 answers · asked by Sexi baby girl 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Well I talked to him about it last night and he said that its just not on his mind.. I shouldn't have to lose 15 pounds I already weigh 110.. Even if I try to do other things to enhance the mood like trying to give him head sometimes he just don't want it..
2006-10-10 14:08:57 · update #1
I highly doubt he's cheating on me.. We're together all the time..
2006-10-10 15:04:59 · update #2
Maybe it's a good thing--I mean, he obviously loves you if he's still with you after three years. He loves you for more than just sex. He cares about you for who you are as a person.
2006-10-10 13:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have some really high anxiety about having sex. Did something happen the first time you did it? Maybe you should talk about the first time you guys did it. See if anything happened. Did he have a friend or someone he knew that had a kid. Are you using protection? Did you guys get tested for stds? Before hand?
I would try just seeing a movie and making out with him. Get all hot and heavy on him and after you've been going at it for alittle bit just tell him you love him, make some moaning noises, tell him you want him. Some guys like dirty talk. Say something like I want you inside me or something.
He may also get pissed when his friends start talking to you or hitting on you at all.
2006-10-11 01:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Frak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doing a thing wrong. That man respects you, and treasures you as an individual. He is fortunate to have you as a part of his life so he is taking things slow.Don't feel as though the love isn't there...the respect definitely is. That more than anything in a relationship counts the most. Respect. To hell with what his friends wants from you. They want to interrupt what the two of you have held together for the past three years. If you have had the times of your life with him, and you care about his being in the world that the two of you are in...treasure it...tomorrow isn't guaranteed to anyone but the two of you.Sex isn't everything.Love and respect is. Enjoy what you have.
2006-10-10 21:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by Fascade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal. After such a high flux of hormones during puberty, men often feel a lack of libido in their early twenties. You should be thankful that you have a caring, loving guy who doesn't want sex all the time, but, if you are really craving it, talk to him about it seriously. I'm sure he is willing to try having more sex with you and he will probably find that his libido will return if he does it more often.
2006-10-10 20:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Checking out your pic ,cant understand.I wouldn't be able to leave you alone myself.
All i can guess is he may be having alot going on in his life at the moment and cant get his head round the sex and intamacy bit at the same time.
maybe if you see each other less each week and just let the sex happen on its own this might take some of the pressure of him.
Good luck
2006-10-11 08:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you for more than just sex. i went through the same thing too. but i've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. he was my first, and when we first started having sex we did it all the time! and now, we only have sex 1-2 times a week. his friends all want to be with me too. he actually punched one of his friends because he touched my butt. at first i thought the same thing,"isn't he attracted to me anymore?", "why doesnt he want to have sex with me?", "he still loves me right?". i asked him about it, he told me," i've found more about you to love than just your naked body honey". and so now i appreciate the times we have sex because now its more an act of love than just lust and horniness. and the time we're just hanging out and having fun is so special and romantic. he still loves you, and has just found more about you to love and appreciate. hope this helps! :D
2006-10-10 21:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must suck his dick with more strenght...Try to swallow everything in the end, and show everything in your buttock to him...
2006-10-10 20:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by HHH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's telling you how he actually feels and there's no hidden motive at all behind it.
It could be something he's afraid of doing wrong. Try to make him feel like you'll accept him no matter what.
2006-10-10 21:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is seeing more than sex in your relationship. Married people have a lot more to do that just that! I don't think you are doing anything wrong.
2006-10-10 22:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you are not listening, He said he is not that interested in sex right now ! Give him some slack, He will get interested again !
2006-10-10 20:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋