I have a wonderful boyfriend and I love him with all my heart. We've been going out for 17 months and we used to go to the same hs. We're in 11th grade now and I go to another school. Naturally I worry about him doing something wrong, but I think I worry too much. By the time I get home I'm completely torn apart from worrying and this just upsets him and I feel terrible about it. I sometimes assume things that aren't true and I also get jealous easily. All it takes for me to get jealous is him getting a simple hug from a girl. I don't know if that's natural. I'm scared that this will get on his very last nerves and actually cause him to do something like cheating or leaving me. I want to do something about this before it gets completely out of hand and wrecks our relationship. I really love him. He's been with me through so much. What should I do? Is it natural?
2006-10-10 13:47:25 · 20 answers · asked by ♪Elan♪ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its normal to be jealous a bit, but not too much. The problem is that you love your bf so much that you imagine the things that are not happening. If you continue to fell this way, there is a danger that you may question him one day and that will ruin everything.
Stop thinking about the unexpected hazards.
2006-10-10 13:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by cosmoboyin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not natural to worry and to be jealous. It doesn't sound like you're having much fun.
This is what you have to realize when you're in a relationship....you cannot control the other persons actions no matter how much you worry or how closely you watch over him.
If he's being faithful your jealously will push him away.
Relax and enjoy what you have with him for as long as it lasts.
2006-10-10 13:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very thing you're afraid will happen (he'll leave you) is going to happen if you keep getting jealous and upset over the idea of it. It will get on his nerves, because the message you're sending him is "you cheat and you lie and I don't trust you"- that's not what anyone wants to feel from the person they love. I think you need to work on relaxing. Let it go. Calm down a little. Understand that whatever happens, you can handle. Center yourself and relax.
2006-10-10 13:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your boyfriend is not giving you any reason whatsoever to not trust him (listen to your gut instinct), then your doubts and distrust in him are uncool. Acknowledge that they may just be your own insecurities and baggage from the past and don't lay it on his shoulders. Work on resolving your own issues instead. If he's been good, he deserves a clean slate. There is no good relationship without trust and honesty, but it goes both ways and it takes two putting in the effort to make things mutually content between you.
2006-10-10 13:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have feelings for him it's only natural to be jealous, I think you should talk to him. If you really like him you should consider moving nearer to him. If he really likes you i'm sure he'll understand and do his best to help. You could also find someone else.
2016-03-28 04:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just answered your own question.
Your jeleous because you know he's hugging other girls.... why does he do that in the first place? and high school guys are very sneaky as well.
I've been through this when I was in highschool. I was jealous and I always thought my boyfriend was with someone else. He would get upset that I though that way, but in the end I found out that he was cheating on me from the very begining. the reason why he got mad was because I was catching on to his stupid game. why sould someone get mad at something if they are innocent?
plus, it shouldn't upset him at all if you get jeleous. a real man would try to work things out, come up with a solution to this and try to reassure you as much as possible. not get mad .
2006-10-10 13:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Red Crayon Aristocrat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The more insecure you are the more chances you have tro become jealous.
If your bf gives you obvious reasons to be jealous then there is reason.
It sounds like you need to work on your self worth. Your jealously or insecurities just might cause you to lose this guy.
Maybe you need to mature more before you are in a committed relationship.
2006-10-10 13:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I was always worried about my boyfriend because I graduated before him. It is natural...I think a lot of women are like this. If you have trust in one another just relax and take it easy. If he is not sneaking off or not calling you don't worry he is always coming back to you. It does suck just try to keep it to yourself and don't let him know that it kind of bothers you... It will be okay. Good Luck!
2006-10-10 13:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by dots_1985 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG I totally kno what yr going though and for you yes it is... it is for me too but like my friend Emily it isnt cuz she hates guys she has a bf but they have gone out for like a year and havent even like said i love u or even put any effort into there reationship and like they never miss eachother lol but with me I get jealous like that too now. I didnt used to but my last boyfriend my EX best friend got jealous he was mine and led him on and stuff and I got really jelous and then he brokeup with me for her sooo now i am always jealous and it sucks alot... but if it really bothers u dont freak out at him like I did just go up to him and tell him whats bothering u and if he really cares about you he will understand <3
2006-10-10 13:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by Artificially Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I know what you're saying. I've been there with friends! Stop letting your insecurities show. If you try harder to make him like you he'll stop all together! Maybe back off a little... he's allowed to be friends with other girls. Just like you are with other boys... But perhaps let him know how you feel... honesty is the best policy!
2006-10-10 13:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋