It's really sad that now days ppl being unfaithful is more common and accepted than being in a faithful realtionship. I've been married to my Soul Mate for over 12 years and ppl think I'm crazy to trust my husband and belive that he's faithful to me. I'm in no way nieve, blind or ignorant and in fact he is in the Army and Currently deployed to Iraq/Kuwait for the 5th time and I trust him and belive that he's not gonna cheat nor has he and all the other spouses and GF think that I'm crazy. I feel like there's no one in the world that I could imagine being with other than my husband, why is it so hard to believe that he can feel the same about me?? I don't remember my parents or their friends going through this, when did things change and why.
2006-10-10 13:35:32 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Shortie♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
alot of times people will see a happy couple and get jealous... why anyone would want to discourage someone of a happy marriage is beyond me, just dont pay attention...
2006-10-10 13:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That "Stereotype" can be sooo hurtful! GeeeeeeZZZZZ!
NOT ALL men in the Service cheat! The ones who cheat, you know something must be wrong in their marriage then take advantage that they are away from getting caught, like getting deployed. They may justify their unhappiness at home and use it for an excuse to have temptation when out to sea, then get brave and have a "fling".
That's just how I SEE it! When it comes to cheating, it's an "individual thing", I mean, guys have their reasons why they do------------ the ones that do cheat, and it is the same with women. It's all in where their heart is, and if they are the committed type! That's all!
A car mechanic, for instance can be a cheater, but doesn't mean they ALL are!
The other part about situations being common and accepted, how about people who have babies without being married? Isn't that accepted? Others may not agree with that, but, seems it's accepted and common also, like being unfaithful!
Just from my experience and ways changing and things, some can't stay true to another because over time couples can change and grow apart for whatever reasons which can be over a crisis, boredom, not seeing "eye to eye" on issues, whatever. Esp. if a Husband cheats on his Wife and she loses feelings for him over it, I don't think that's right to "sweep it under the carpet" and stay together no matter what------------ that was what they did in the old days I think, just sweep away the troubles" and ignore it, BUT stay married--------some religion does that!
Heck with it!
Times just change and ideas and traditions change!
Anyway, you stay happy with your life and keep believing in your Husband, and try not to listen to people who will hurt your feelings! Maybe they aren't sentimental!
2006-10-10 14:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things have changed through generation.
It seems as though people nowadays have been brought up believing that happiness isn't forever, true love doesn't exist, and that soulmates is for wussy people.
Cheaters are ridiculous. They'll blame anyone and everyone for their reason of infidelity. They say they can't fight temptation. It's dumb.
I believe your husband is being faithful, so let those others think what they want. They hear so much about other unfaithful spouses that they forgot faithful relationships do exist.
It's sad that most people are cheaters but I, however, am not one of those people.
2006-10-10 13:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It use to be a terrible thing if someone cheated. Because of television and stories you hear from celebrity gossip people tend to think it is ok to cheat when married. Do not listen to those girls they should not even be putting that stuff in your head. Especially when you are worried about him being in the military. I would trust your husband unless you find a way not to trust him. Guys will find other ways to release the sex tention. I hope he comes home safe soon.
2006-10-10 17:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the culture. If you and him are latinamerican then I would say there is a 99 percent chance that he is unfaithful but if you guys are northamericans there is less chance. I guess the more religious you are the less chances (althogh it isnot an insurance) that you are going to stay faithful. I dont have any doubts of my husband but because he is a canadian and a deeply religious, God fiering person, if he was something else perhaps I would be nervious. Latinamerican man are rarely faithful
2006-10-10 13:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Incredula c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The invention of cable tv ruined our lives!!! We watch something about sex almost every time we turn the tv on. Music videos, soap operas, commercials, etc.
Add to that divorce and single parent families. TV's raising children while the mother busts her butt at work and then at home. We tend to give into our children when back in our childhood days we would have gotten a good spanking.
As a society, we have lowered our standards and our morals. We tend to accept things that generations before us would not have.
To quote my Baptist preaching daddy, "Sex, drugs, and rock and roll are ruining our young people".
2006-10-10 13:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know why ppl feel it's ok... my husband and i have been faithful to each other for 15 yrs, married 12. i think it's due to lack of morals, self respect, and the devil being on a rampage.
2006-10-10 13:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Despite what "everyone" says I don't think it's normal. Trust your man...unless he gives you something to not trust him about. It's easier NOT to be paranoid about stuff like this. I am married and my husband is faithful...he's too nerdy not to be.
2006-10-10 13:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by mrspatpat79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way is it normal. no way is it part of marriage in anyway. why would you ask a question or make a statement that just holds no truth to it. it is not in every marriage , even if the man is off to war , right? it is the people who are slighted in intellegence up stiars. "not normal!"
2006-10-10 14:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell iv been cheated on. it happenes to everyone at least once. I think people have no loyalty and are spoiled. but dont think its just america. in japan, their divorce rate is like 75 percent. People just cant be happy, its sad.
2006-10-10 13:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by 571234 6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋