How can I feel less useless and be positive again?

Question

I moved in with my partner 2 years ago, I quit my job to move and have been looking for a job since, after a year I gave up, but then I managed to convince myself there is something out there, so sent CVs out, I got quite a few interviews but didn't get the jobs , I kept trying and then just gave up again, my partner lost her father and that got me motivated again, but still nothing, I feel like a failure and that I'll never find work, never be able to afford to marry my partner, have a nice house and kids, I just feel so negative and I know my partner wants to have children very soon, but we both know we can't afford to right now, with just her working.

I'm not looking too high, I worked in retail for 3 years and a few months of that was management I'll take anything, I even tried getting a paper round but with no luck.
I realise the gap is a bad thing but the more I get rejected the bigger the gap will get, it's just so frustrating.

Answer 1

Don't ever give up on your job search. Sometimes it can be extremely frustrating, but eventually it will pay off.

Answer 2

A friend of mine is currently in this position (except he's married, has one child and one on the way). His problem is that he keeps applying for jobs in which he expects to make a lot of money. He's aiming high, when in fact he may have to start at the bottom again. If this is what you're doing too, then I would suggest you try to look for a job that will just about hire anybody (but don't go too low in the chain if you've got more qualifications). Once you get this job, you can look around at other jobs that you may prefer. I'm sure employers are now looking at your resume and wondering why you haven't worked in a long while (this may be a negative). Good luck!

Answer 3

I quit my job in Dec '05 and i have struggled to find work to so i know what it's like. The main thing is that you don't give up, keep sending out C.V's and going to the interview's. Sooner or later you will get something but in the mean time look at the interview's as experience. Some people don't even manage to get an interview so your doing something right, think positive. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Maybe, you need to speak with a careers adviser or ask to speak with someone in an employment agency.Someone who is employed to match what skills you have exercised in the past with previous jobs, someone who is able to match up with existing jobs to recently acquired skills from training or educational courses you have undertaken, and someone who is able to do an overview of any other educational qualifications you have. You will then be profiled through their network systems which will tell you what jobs they have available suitable to the information they have gathered about you.

You see what I am saying is that sometimes in life we need help and guidance, as throughout the years we can become fixated by certain practices of applying for every single vacancy we feel is suitable just because its a job, and in actual fact you should targetting an employer instead.

Sometimes you may think an employment agency with an HR offcer is talking to you in an alien tongue, they have an uncanny joke title as 'human remains', sadly because they can be very matter of fact or school ma'am like.- but ultimately they really do know their job and as such you can even get advice on drawing up your covering letters, the types of CV you send out. There standard of English is normally very good and they may even draft some examples up for you. These people certainly understand the employment market as they are paid to by their clients.

The unemployment office tries its best but really they see so many people you would just be a statistic.

Try not to lose your confidence.Every cloud has a silver lining. You are alive, young vibrant enough to be contemplating your personal future with someone you love.

Planning should lead to a more positive and successful outcome.

Good luck.

Answer 5

the best thing to do is to just keep trying and dont give up, if anyhing go for the easy jobs at first even if it is minimum wage its still better than nothing, do this to hold you over, and while this is going on keep sending resumes and keep trying, try and meet people taht are in the business, or even ask your partner if she can talk to her boss and/or higher co-workers for you to have a chance

dont be so hopless about it, its not the end of the world, you cna still have the life that you and your partner wanted, money shouldnt determine anything agains it

just make a lot of money, save it all up and then you cn take a break, it shoudlnt be hard to find a job, just have faith in yourself

good luck

fuzzy...

Answer 6

Review how you handle the interviews. What do you say that could possibly turn off the interviewer? How can you improve your presentation? Business success is more reliant upon the impression you make than on what you can actually do. It's a numbers game. Eventually the ball will roll your way. Good luck.

Answer 7

Take a class at a junior college - fairly inexpensive on the tuition but rich on networking. Use the counselor's connections, talk with your professor, other adult students who are probably either working and going to school part time or looking for work like you are. It will give you something worth while to do and will give you an 'in' to the opportunity you're looking for.

good luck

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You don't say what your skills are, but changing fields might be in order.
Most school districts are desparate for teachers with any language skills at all.
Most companies have trouble finding people that can even read and write english.
Short answer, widen your job search.

Answer 10

never give up.
apply for everything and everyone.
noone but you knows how often you have been rejected, dont let it get u down. just keep tryin.

lol and if your really stuck me and my bf are leavin our jobs at BP, just hope u dont mind working nights lol :D

MJ

Answer 11

Make a list of all the good things in your life.