what are your views on disciplining your children?

Question

what do you feel the right form is?

Answer 1

There is more to discipline than punishment. Punishment is the consequence of not following rules or meeting expectations. It is also one of the means used to guide kids back on track. Discipline is expectations,rules and routine. However, I suspect you are asking about stuff like time-outs, grounding, spanking, etc.

Althought some people think I am oversimplistic--I think there is way too little spanking--and I believe it is an important component or raising and instilling discipline in children.Although this is a stupid analogy--a paddle does a good job of keeping the boat headed in the right direction.

Although I was spanked as a kid I was convinced in college that it was inappropriate. So I did not at first spank when I had my own kids. To make a long story short--in the course of being a Mom I changed my tune and decided my parents were not so dumb and old fashioned after all.

I know that anectodal stories are not very useful--but that is the major reason I spank--it works for me. I also think it is fairer and less mean than punishments like time outs and groundings. A spanking gets the punishment over and the air is cleared. The other things drag the thing out. I don't want to be a parental jailer. With younger kids I think the whole point of why they are being punsihed is lost. With older kids it is no more of an effective punishment and inspiration to strive for better behavior than jailing adults is.


I think if more parents would spank--and do it correctly--they would be very surprprised by the results they get. And I don't mean for every little thing but not just as a last resort either. The real key to making it work is consistency.

I should also mention all the research that has been done on this subject showing it is bad. These are all statistically flawed. Infact to the surprise of one researchers who surveyed all the research--he found it to be the most effective method of getting children to comply with the wishes of their parents.

There is a reason parents have been spanking since time immemorial. The anti-spanking movement is very new. And like a lot of new untested ideas I am convinced it is wrong.

Answer 2

Spanking isn't always the best answer but sometimes they need their butts fired up. I usually make mine stand in the corner. They hate that worse than getting a spanking.

Answer 3

Having timeouts.

Answer 4

lots of home works and proper guidance

Answer 5

no phone