How do I become a better husband when my wife blames me for all our problems?

Answer 1

I'm sure you are not to blame for ALL of your problems. I'm sure that it is 50/50. You did not give details so I can't offer much advise. I can tell you that my husbands and my problems are mainly money (not his fault or mine) and his temper.
Good luck.

Answer 2

You don't become a better husband. You become a better man. You accept the responsibility for the choices you've made, and the consequences (good and bad) that flow from them. You do not accept the responsibility for the acts of others, or those things beyond your control (no matter what your wife accuses you of). YOU define what your responsibilities are; not her, nor anyone else.
You recognize your weaknesses, and compensate for them with your strengths. You do not seek self esteem from the praise of others. Nor do you accept being demeaned by the criticism of others. Self esteem comes from personal accomplishments. Seek them out.
A man does not tolerate abuse, physical or emotional, in the name of love. Nor does he commit it in the same name. Understand that patience and compassion are not weakness; nor is weakness "patience and compassion". Show her that all these things: patience, compassion AND weakness, have their limits. Her behavior may exceed them.
Become a better man, and being a better husband naturally follows. That doesn't mean she will ever be a better woman, or a better wife.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like he is getting leftovers. We make time for the things that are important to us. I think that you have issues that you need to work on personally before you can work on your marriage. At this point, his family isn't going to trust you for a very, very long time, if ever. Find a way to manage your time better so that when he comes to your house he is number one. If you cant find a babysitter for your daughter find a friend you can trust to babysit for a couple of hours. Or send you daughter to stay with your parents for the summer which will give you and your husband time to rebuild a relationship. Where there is a will, there is a way. But I strongly recommend some counseling for you personally and for you two a couple. Something is not right for you to create lies about your husband to tell the cops.

Answer 4

Poor Me.

Me, have you checked out who makes the decisions in your relationship? Someone usually makes the final call. Is it you? Are you the one with the checkbook? I'm Not saying it's all your fault....I'm saying someone makes the decisions.

Decision making is tough. Sounds like your wife would like some input. Next time she blames you for something just tell her you know you screwed it up. Ask her if she would be willing to take this over?

Make decisions together. Odds are things will improve, and if something goes south, you can remind her that she was half of the decision, too.

Answer 5

I do not want to bash you but I'm sure you are not perfect either! You have to ask yourself hat you are doing that is pissing her off. Like what did I do this time what did you say to her? You will only become a better husband if you really want too! Are you helping around the house? Or what can you do to help around the house.
Some time we do carry on about thing s that are so little and so petty that we forget about the important things that make us happy! Do you remember the things that make her happy? Good Luck to you and yours!

Answer 6

Be realistic of what she says how much of it is true. You would be surprised how much she would appreciate the little things like taking out the trash without being asked. Or helping with the kids (if you have any) with out being asked.
If you are already doing these things and she still blames you for everything try to find out what is really bothering her. She obviously has something up her butt. If you can get her to really tell how she feels then you might be able to find out what to do to make things better.
Good luck.

Answer 7

you won't not if you hear that all the time. youll end up giving up eventually cause nothing you do can please her.

It takes two to make a marriage work so she shouldn't blame you for everything. Maybe she's afraid to admit she's wrong. maybe that will make her look weak. but what ever the reason that doesnt' mean you have to be her punching bag when things go wrong.

Sit her down and tell her how you feel. She mostly won't care I find people like that are all about themselves and you trying to make sense to it or explaining it to them they just can't see it they have tunnel vision.

Good luck

Answer 8

Talk and communicate with her. If that doesn't work then I suggest a marriage counselor where you can air your differences. It takes two to make a marriage and it is a
50/50 relationship. There should actually not be any blame
on anyone, but if there is, she should eat some of it too
since I just said it's 50/50.

Good Luck and I hope you follow my advice.

Answer 9

You know what it is a marraige. She shouldn't be blaming you, its two people in a marraige and everything is combined. No one person is the problem its both of you. Unless one is cheating.

You shouldn't have to change you should just beable to be you and her love you and vice versa.

I mean if your going to marry then stick together or you will end up being divorced in a year

good luck

Answer 10

I would ask her to back up her accusations, not with personal attracts, but times places and dates. It sounds like there is a problem and she is not being honest with you. Sit down with her and ask what is really going on, unless this has been happening from day one, there is another problem, and she does not how to tell you what it is, and it is very likely some thing she is involved in, anger is a good way to hide guilt from everyone including out selves, I do wish you well on this