Pregnant women....don't you think your men should be helping you during this time?? i'm 5 months prego

Question

My husband and I have been getting into fights because he has such a problem with helping me with little things!! i.e. the litter box...i'm not supposed to touch it, but if it were up to him, it'd only be changed every 2 weeks....also the garbage makes me nausiated! and vacuming hurts my back....only these 3 things i ask him to help with and he throws a fit! Shouldn't our men be helping us, even a little??

Ok, he's throwing a fit too because i showed this to him and i didn't put that he works and I don't....right now..but i will be within the next month!!

Answer 1

You need him now more than ever. I am totally on your side..I was one of the lucky ones whose husbands were a little too worried about me and did not want to let me do much until I finally said Hey I can do it, but your husband needs to be there for you and the cat litter thing is so important...Ask him if he would rather clean up your puke or harm the baby because the cat litter really could and the bad smells of things will only mean more mess to clean up if you get sick from the smells...Wait until you can not bend over to pick up something you drop..what will he do than? I support you!!!

Answer 2

Hey dont worry I had sex w a lot of guys too BT lucky I hvent gotten pregnant don't listen to everyone who is trying to put u down well first don't think about ur religion it's fine whatever u are everything makes mistake there is a test u can't take to determine who the father is and if u r from around here there is a clinic in monterey where u can go alone and UR parents don't have to be involve they won't call or anything it's all a secrete I recommend there and I m against abortion bf they will stick something things throgh UR vigin ms start to pull the baby in pieces depends how old they are and since ur fairly small in weight bt tall u won't grow as much stomach ur stomach will look really small so don't worry about gaining weight Good luck

Answer 3

YES, they should be helping you out during this time. I was pregnant before we moved in together. He lived by himself and he would have piles of clothes in his room, in the bathroom and all sorts of guy crap all over the floor of his apartment. First I think it's disrespectful for him to have such a dirty place, on top of that not bother cleaning when I came over. He would always say "you have feet, just step over the stuff" - at 9 months pregnant!???! He has NEVER been helpful AT ALL around the house, with the kids...with anything involving the house. He huffs and puffs when I nicely ask him to do something around the house. You come home from work, complain that there are toys in the living room (we have 2 kids), the house isn't clean, sit on your a$$ all evening watching tv and won't help me do sh!t and then complain about the state of the house??? My guy doesn't do a damn thing at all in the house and acts like the 2 minute job scooping out the cat litter every 6 days is too much. He has never catered or done is part in this relationship and even told me once that he's not going to change his ways or what he does just because I'm pregnant. And he's wondered why I've lost my patience for him...The sorry SOB...

Answer 4

I would have my man help - I've been told by my OB to let him do some of the stuff for me,as I'm supposed to be resting more often. But truth is...if I want something done right, I'll do it myself.

My man will carry my laundry basket up the stairs for me. But, I won't ask him to do the laundry otherwise. My son takes out the garbage when I ask him. I vaccuum, it helps keep my back straight and it's not heavy. Plus, I know all the corners are done and not just the main area. I make dinner, because pizza doesn't stay down well. Besides, I make him work much later at night, and I don't care that he has to get up early the next morning!

Answer 5

Yes he should be helping and my Significant other was the same always complaining when I asked him to help. I wish I could have gotten a simpathy suit for him to wear so he could understand how hard everything was but then the sympathy suit wouldnt have made him nausiated so it would have only done part of the job. Oh and I wish I could say hes better now but if anything he is worse. And he doesnt help out with the baby much either.

Answer 6

Ugh! Girl, I am with you!! I don't think boys actually understand what pregnancy is all about. I am happy that my husband has taken on some of the responisibility, but I do have to remind him to take out the cat litter and get the garbage together. It's not easy.

Just tell him that you would appreciate his help with these things - because it won't get easier when the baby gets here. You'll have to talk to him when he's actually calm and rational and explain how things are/ need to be. Hopefully he'll understand.

I hope things work out for you!

Answer 7

The garbage makes me puke too, so hubby does that. He is in police academy during the day and has to work his reg. job at night, so I try not to be too needy. He takes care of the stuff I have started having problems with, like walking the big dog and taking the trash out. I don't think it is fair to make him do everything just because I am pregnant. He does a good job for the most part, he is a good guy. Men are like little boys, they will whine no matter what it is they are doing.

Answer 8

No offnese to you but he isn't doing anything any different then what he's been doing before you became pregnant. I'm sure it would be much appreciated that he helps with such simple requests. I think the only way to even get him to at least to think about it is next time you are at your OBGYN have your doctor explain to him what you are experiencing so maybe your husband can hopefully see things from your point of view. If not then maybe you could pay a neighborhood kid to handle the things your husband won't (how's that for an ego breaker). Goodluck!

Answer 9

hello yes he should have been sharing duties in the first place you arent the only one that lives there .. I wouldnt do a damned thing untill he shares a bit . he sounds like a brat. Please dont get to upset though from this some men are like this .My dad was with my mom and with all the stress ( she was on bed rest) she delievered my brother 3 months early because my dad didnt do a thing a she got up
.. If he is such a fart and will not call someone to help like his mom yours a gf or someone you know will help . Ladies in church might help too. Have them come while he is there tho , he might feel like a jerk :)

Answer 10

Absolutely! I dont think you are asking him to much at all and maybe you just need to sit him down and have a little chat -- explain how you feel and how your greatly need his help.
Hopefully you can knipp it in the butt now, because your only going to need his help more & more as you get further along.

Im 27weeks tomorrow -YEA- and I have been VERY fortunate to have a understanding hubby.... yes, sometimes he needs some reminders but usually if I ask nicely he is right on it.

Good luck!