this happen sometime in the past but she's already married to you then. What would be your reaction and what are you going to do.
2006-10-10 12:24:33 · 23 answers · asked by geeg70 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
old history ... if i didnt catch it then it wasnt a problem and if we are happy now or since then i wont be too upset ...maybe it was something that she needed to do to make sure that i was the only one that she wants to stay with .. im just a optimist..
2006-10-10 12:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy, but I can tell you what my husband would do if I told him about 2 men I had kissed after our marriage.
First he would be shocked, second he would ask me why the H E double hockey sticks am I telling him this now. Then he would ask me if I would rather be with the other guys. Then he would cut me off from everything for about 2 weeks until he got over being angry. Then he would come to me and tell me if I ever decide to kiss another man for pleasure again, I need to file for divorce first.
2006-10-10 20:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said this is for the guys but as a married women I am going to say that if I kissed 2 different guys then it was because I wasn't happy at home. And by her telling you its a cry for attention. Sorry just honesty.
2006-10-10 19:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by ebsharer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to date a girl who'd drop bombs like that just looking for a reaction. Hers were usually a little more explicit than kissing, but she really just did it to illicit a predictable response in an attempt to manipulate me.
What does she hope to accomplish by telling him this? Is it just a question of disclosure, or is there a specific effect she's looking for? Why does he ever need to know who she has or hasn't kissed in years gone by?
2006-10-10 19:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not matter to me how long ago it was. I would have a real problem with it. If nothing else happened, we would get passed it, but it would take a lot of time. I would ask a lot of questions about the guys, the circumstances, etc. This would not go away quickly.
2006-10-10 19:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think I would care. It happened, is in the past, and was only kisses. Then again, I'm not the jealous type. Perhaps, you should just keep it to yourself.
2006-10-10 19:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be disappointed & might think diffrently about her AND i would not trust for one second that it was only a kiss!. Also wonder her motive in brining it up NOW. I'M A MARRIED women not a man thou.
2006-10-10 19:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him, who is without sin, cast the first stone.
My wife confessed she had sex with three different guys more than once. I did not break off our marriage, although I was a virgin.
Love conquers all.
2006-10-10 19:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by va3jrj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duh.....who does that? a cheater.
If he doesn't demand counseling and a renewed commitment to the marriage he is nuts.
And if you are the one who has done the kissing.....what part of being faithful and committed don't you understand?
2006-10-10 19:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in the past. I would only wonder why she is telling me now.
2006-10-10 19:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋