2006-10-10 11:59:29 · 30 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't drink either. Go the the meetings with him, be supportive, tell him you are so proud of him for getting help, and let him know that you will be there for him because you love him.
2006-10-10 12:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by ladyrapture1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who lived with an addict for many, many years. You can't help him....he has to help himself. I was supportive through 2 rehab programs that didn't work and even several months of AA meetings. You must also realize that once an alcoholic always an alcoholic....he can never have a drink again in his life. Many people say "oh hey, what's one drink?" well that turns into a new problem.
For you to be supportive, you can go to support groups that will give you insight into what you are dealing with, and ways to be supportive, but in the end you are not the one who will make the choice ultimately the decision will be his whether he chooses to stay sober.
My advice is to keep a close eye on him, watch for changes in mood and behaviour as this will be the first warning signal if he starts to drink again.
As I said, there isn't too much you can do, other than tell him he's doing great, and your proud of his accomplishment, and be his best friend. You also have to keep him away from his "drinking buddies". Go out to and make new friends as a couple that will also help you to help him.
Alcohol addiction is a one step, one day at a time plan that will have to last the rest of his life.
I wish you and him success
2006-10-10 13:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are taking on a very very serious problem. The fact that your bf is seeking help is positive and you can contact alcoholic anonymous for help in how to offer support.
Years of counselling is still no guarantee that someone will beat the disease. You are best to get a great deal of advice from counsellors before taking on this situation at so young an age.
2006-10-10 12:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is seeking help, then you should be following the advice of his counsellor or sponsor not yahoo Q&A. If you haven't talked to them yet, then it is time you did.
Every situation and person struggling with addiction is unique, which is why I would go to the person directly involved in the process before I'd seek advice from total strangers that do not know your boyfriend or anything about his history.
Go to AA. Proven program.
2006-10-10 12:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with your local AlAnon chapter. It's a support meeting for people (loved ones, family,etc) who are involved with alcoholics. Very excellent way of being a constructive support for your boyfriend as well as helping you to cope because alcoholism goes a lot deeper than just drinking too much...
2006-10-10 12:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me it never gets better I was a guy for eight years had a Kid, he cheated on me and beat me up. If he don't stop his addiction, give up. He said he would stop but he never did. He would stop for a week or two and start back up again. You will have to watch every move he makes and make sure he gets all the help he can get. And pray like hell. Make him go to church with you. And make him believe he will lose you and a good thing if he won't stop if you really care about this guy. Good Luck! Unfortunely I am not with my son's dad. He knows now what he missed out on.
2006-10-10 12:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Christal R S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, and this is coming from someone who does not drink, but has three alcoholics in his family.
RUN!!!!!
Alcoholism takes SERIOUS commitment to beat. We're talking years of therapy and support groups and even then, there is no guarantee. You can help him by putting your foot down and saying "If you want to quit, i will support you. But if you drink again, I am out of your life forever." It sounds cruel, but his alcoholism will not only affect HIS life, but YOURS as well. Are you ready for that gamble? Remember that YOU have a life too.
2006-10-10 12:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to go to Alcoholics Anonumous. You also have to think hard about yourself and your relationship in the long term. Being with an alcoholic is a hard life, especially if he blames you for his drinking, which a lot of alcoholics do. Al Anon is a good support group for partners/friends/children of alcoholics.
2006-10-10 12:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As he tries to overcome his addiction there will be days when he stumbles, on those days you will have to encourage him to continue. Stick by him no matter what people say. He will appreciate you for that
To help him, join him in not drinking. Go to places where non- alcoholic drinks are served.
2006-10-10 12:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Josangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf should go to AA to help him with his addiction and you should go to Alanon to help you. Alanon is an organization similiar to AA except that it's for the person that doesn't have a drinking problem. Alanon can answer a lot of your questions about what you should do to help him. It will also give you someone to talk to who can relate to the issues that you are dealing with. I have gone to Alanon meetings and found them very helpful. I wish you the best!
2006-10-10 12:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋