My husband only pays me attention when he wants sex...he makes me feel so neglected...granted he works long hours and is tired ALL the time but every time i go near him, even to sit on the chair beside him he makes an excuse to escape!..I only want a little kiss and cuddle is that too much to ask!??...he says he loves me and i 'think' he does but IF he 'did' why doesn't he show he cares?...I feel unhappy with things as they are and feel i need more from a relationship than this, when i confront him about it he says, im over reacting and he's not THAT sort of person (meaning he's ignorant and uncaring in my opinion) i sometimes think he doesn't deserve my love and care...When he's in need of some relief though hes like a different person and he can't get enough of me..as soon as he's done, he reverts back to his caveman self....All thoughts appreciated on this...be honest!
2006-10-10 11:54:22 · 7 answers · asked by rainbowmarybobbins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have talked to him over and over about this and he just assumes im exaggerating, as though i'm not serious...it makes me unhappy, it's a one way relationship with only myself doing the trying
2006-10-10 12:26:08 · update #1
Ed Z...that is sad...you are totally wrong.. You can't assume you know all the story by going off such a short part of my life.
2006-10-11 12:04:10 · update #2
I am totally open, he is closed and isn't interested in listening.
2006-10-11 12:05:36 · update #3
Ok, you can make this better.
He's working long hours and is tired All the time? And he's being a caveman. Sounds like he needs some alone time. How long have you guys been together? He needs a break.
Cater to him when he gets home. Lay out his towels and put out some candles. See if you can have his dinner done. Let him rest. It's not that he doesn't want you, but he's gone into survival mode. And he's still coming home. So, clear the kids out, let him chill and do whatever he does...and let his poor mind clear.
Maybe you could take the kids (I'm assuming kids) and visit Mom for a night. Let him have the place to himself. Sounds like he needs to sleep.
See if he won't take a multi-vitamin. He can call his GP and let them know.
Give the poor man a chance to recover. Once he can see past his own physical needs again, he'll perk up and begin to interact with you. He sounds pretty depleted. Give him a chance to recover. By no means bring up subjects that bring on misery. Be his oasis in the parched desert of his life. Dress pretty, wear your make up and lay off. Let him come to you.
2006-10-10 12:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that when women feel like their emotional needs aren't being met....eventually someone else will fill them. Kind of like when a guy gets hardly any action from his wife......he feels neglected and eventually another woman will satisfy his need. I'm not saying it's a legitimate excuse, just a consequence of people not keeping their significant other happy. Tell him to shape up or ship out...You may have married him for life....but he also promised to keep you happy and think of your needs...just as you promised to think of his. Try giving him sex alll the time, don't with hold sex from him...(I'm a girl) it will only make your problems deeper.
2006-10-10 21:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cortney & Nathan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a selfish man he is, its no wonder women feel the need to go and find satisfaction somewhere else. I will answer in more detail in the last question you posted.
2006-10-10 19:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is the way it goes honey , we are thier best friends when they want the booty! soon as it is done , they roll over and start snoring! that is just the way some men act! tell him you need quality time _ outside of the bed!
2006-10-10 19:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAA WAA.
How many years have you been putting the kids between you and him?
How many needless fights over nothing?
How many nights have you rejected him?
How big has your a$$ gotten since you met?
How many times have you rejected him because "I'm not happy with myself?"
You need to shut up, open up and be happy you are together.
2006-10-10 21:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you need to do some things that int erst him and peps up more to talk about even try some new things together
2006-10-10 19:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. he just wants you for sex, thats why
2006-10-10 18:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋