I broke up with my boyfriend around March, and my family still hasn't forgiven me. They keep saying how I broke his heart. This might not mean anything, but he comes before me in her top friends on myspace, and my family never hesitates to remind me what a nice boy he is. I'm sick of dealing with this, and I'm really upset that my sister even considers him closer to her than I am. I just didn't like him... and they don't understand at all.
2006-10-10 11:06:03 · 4 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She doesn't like wanna date him, she just considers him closer to her than me.
2006-10-10 11:12:38 · update #1
We all have to walk our own path. I love my son's girlfriend and worry he may not choose her for the long run. That's my problem. My Mom "chose" my husband and I never loved him as much as I should have. When he died, and I got older, I realized the wonderful person I had. Unfotunately, no matter how your family loves him, if you don't, you'll just make him unhappy. It is worth exploring why you don't love him. Is it him or because your family thinks he's great? Do you think your family loves you? If not, do you love you? So many feelings and self assessments determine who we love. I really don't think they love him more, they just want your happiness and believe he'll bring it. Sometimes outsiders see so much more than we do. Consider their perspective, and if it's wrong, figure out why. I've always been sad and amazed how often good women find good men boring. That's a problem!!! Good luck and learn from your choices.
2006-10-10 11:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by mlist32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't like him more than you...!! don't take it that way.. your sister's sympathy for him (she probably listened to his crying about how you hurt him), and she feels Sorry for him, causing her to think "badly" of you... however, it is not a literal "dislike" of you as a person, just in terms of him and him as your ex boyfriend. :(
it'll take time.. don't worry about it, try not to get hurt. u cannot force yourself to stay with someone if you don't love him! you wil know when YOU are completely happy, satisfied, and with a man who is right for you. of course it would be wonderful if ur parents liked him, AND you loved him, AND he was wonderful to you...but sometimes it doesn't work that way! so in the end, what is Most important, is how happy , Positive, and Healthy you are together. :) so i suggest just work on yourself; take care of yourself and your relationships w/ family and friends; ignore when they speak of that guy, and just try hard to find other things to talk about. immerse yourself in sports or activities, hobbies, learn to excel in school, etc. the better you are, the more u will be proud of yourself, and the more your family will trust In your ability to make good decisions! good luck~
2006-10-10 18:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you told the truth , that you didn't like him before it was too late but your sister shouldn't do that becuase your sisters and that's wrong.
2006-10-10 18:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by chilingurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her have him if she likes him and go on with your life he is her prob now if it did not work out with him you can go on now and be happy now
2006-10-10 18:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by the wall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋