People have told me that they strongly believe that my boyfriend is doing some kind of drug. (One of his good friends, that is also my cousin) He said that he could smell it on his hoodie...and like, this morning my bf avoided me at school and later he told me soom excuse but my cousin said he was "messed up" (they ride the same bus) and he was trying to avoid me......Ok, about the cheating...the same cousin said that he and a few other people saw a girl sit on my bf's lap...So, how do I confront my bf about this? How do I find out all of this is true? We have been together for 6 or 7 years and have a very strong relationship...but I don't want to be with someone who does this stuff and lies about it....Please, I need real caring people to give me a detailed answer..I'm so lost, confused, and hurt. I need help!
2006-10-10 10:36:36 · 18 answers · asked by Bunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My advise, you love him right? Look for the signs yourself, that he is doing drugs. (sweating, shaking, he breaks out, has drier sheets, breath smells different, has no money, or lots of it if he's dealing, he's itchy) Is he acting different? Does he spend as much time with you? If you are going to come straight forward and ask him, be nice and gentle about it. If he is not cheating or doing drugs, then he is going to think you don't trust him. Then you have another kind of problem. Is he dealing with a lot of stress right now? That could be the reason for his actions. Talk to him. Let him know you care.
2006-10-10 10:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you've been together for 6-7 yrs you should know him alot better than your cousin knows him. You say you have a strong relationship, then you should be able to talk to him about some "rumors" you've been hearing around school. I would leave out some of the details so as not to drag too many people into it. It should be a conversation just between the 2 of you...honest and open. Tell him you're worried about him and need to know where he stands in your relationship.If he loves you and you can trust him I'd ignore what you hear until you see it for yourself.
2006-10-10 17:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK your getting your info from your cousin, is your cousin an honest person or what, I believe I would do some snooping around on my own. Second hand info is usually not very good. I would either do some snooping or ask him straight up about the girl and drugs. If you check things out yourself you might find what you need to know or might not, it depends on what lenghts you are willing to go to. Asking him about this will most certainly get you," I don't know what your talking about, what girl, what drugs!". I would investigate. Good luck.
2006-10-10 18:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know you really care for him having been together for so long
I think you should stop being his girlfriend and start being his friend,
confront him about the drugs and if you think he might be doing something
he probably is, as for the cheating maybe you can ask the girl who was
sitting on his lap, but to round it up sounds like you two are growing apart
and maybe need some down time.
2006-10-10 17:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I started reading I assumed that you are a young teen but then you said that you have been together 6 or 7 years. It sounds like a very juvenile relationship. Just confront him and see what he says. You should be able to tell if he is lying. If he is lying then you have a decision to make. You can either help him or help him get help or you can leave him.
Good Luck
2006-10-10 17:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just straight out ask him what is going on and tell him what you think without bringin his cousin into it. If he comes out and tells you that he is doing the drugs tell him thank you for being honest but that its something that you are really against. As for the cheating part look him in the eyes and ask him and see what his eyes tell you. The eyes tell all. Good luck! and if he doenst come clean or you dont feel like he is kick him to the curb...thats too much drama for you to have to deal with.
2006-10-10 17:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be straight forward with your boyfriend. Let him know how you feel about that kind of stuff and ask him questions. Don't start to accuse him and you should bring your cousin in the conversation too that way your boyfriend can't lie.
2006-10-10 17:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey! If you suspect him of doing it he probablly is! Not to sound harsh but, your relationship can't be that strong if you think he is cheating and doing drugs. My ex was way into that...it only gets worse. Also, if you and him are sexually active and he is cheating on you he could be putting you at risk. I suggest you sit him down and talk ot him. Confront him but, don't accuse. One piece of advise you can't make someone that doesn't want to quit, quit. Good luck.
2006-10-10 17:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by *~Love is Dead~* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you just need to be honest with him because i have been in the same situation u are in. If he gets all mad and storms off that will be kind of suspicious because if its not true why would he get mad?...........They best thing to do is just confront him ur hurtin urself more by waitin around and thinking about it. Just make sure u see how he reacts and that will explain it all. If he starts yelling just tell him that what wuold he do if he heard all these things about u?.........................
2006-10-10 17:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by MEri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drug addicts are by there very nature liars. if he has a problem, he must confront it, Drugs and cheating go hand in had. sorry to say. but there is hope. confront him, make him do a drug test, you can by them at head shops all over. don't back down. you must know the truth. good luck
2006-10-10 17:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋