Okay so i'm not out to everybody...I just told a couple of my friends. The problem is that I really like one of my friends (a girl). She knows about me (and has no problem with it), but I never told her that I like her because I don't wanna scare her off or something. What do I do? What can I do to maybe get her to like me also?
2006-10-10 10:35:44 · 9 answers · asked by .::.confused.::. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can't make someone like you..gay/straight it doesn't matter...test the water, see what happens.
It seems to me you have a good friend who accepts you for who you are, don't forget that. Good Luck
2006-10-10 10:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by borntolose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been in your place before.
i fell in love with my best friend, and i didn't know what to do about it.
all i knew was that she was open to having gay friends, and that she had no problem with the sexual orientation.
what i did was i let her read my journal.
it contained lots of poems that i made for her and about her.
all i did was tell her that some of the thoughts in my journal were about her.
the next day, i asked for my journal back.
i told her that my journal was my way of confessing my feelings for her.
i also told her that i didn't expect her to return the feelings that i had for her.
but if, by some chance, she felt the same way, i would like to know.
turns out that she did feel the same way for me.
she left her guy to be with me after that.
and we've been together for 3 1/2 years running.
all i can suggest is you tell her the truth.
coz she deserves to know the truth.
but don't pressure her in any way.
let her know that she holds all the cards, and that you're ready to accept whatever cards she will deal to you.
coz in the end, that's all we can do.
just be hopeful.
and be ready for the possibility of being rejected.
also, you have to establish that your confession should not change your friendship.
coz i'm sure you wouldn't want to lose her as a friend.
and i'm more sure that she feels the same way.
hope my answer will somehow help you.
best of luck!
\m/
2006-10-10 14:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first don't let some people be a$$es to you just because you haven't came out to everyone yet. You will in time,when your comfortable. When you discover that you are gay or bisexual, it's a part of finding out who you are and that doesn't all happen in one day. But anyways-Maybe you should just hang out with her one day and after a while,just ask her how does she feel about you being gay. Then you could try to build up your nerves to tell her how you feel about her. It's all up to you-don't be afraid to be rejected,if she's a real friend she will appreicate your honesty and no matter what she will still be your friend.
2006-10-10 11:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to realize that just because your a lesbian and know you are doesn't make everyone else one too. Your friend doesn't have a problem with it and she respects you... So you need to respect that she might just be straight. So you can ask her if she ever had the same feeling as you do or does she just like guys... Either way you will know what to do at that point.. If she says I just like guys then say something smart like its odd that I don't feel that way... or something.. If she says I though about girls then ask her what her type is...
2006-10-10 11:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by mylife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you pointed out that your sexuality 'okay with her', I'm assuming you mean she's straight...in which case, there's probably nothing you can do about it. My siggestion...? EIther decide that you want to tell her, dtart dropping subtle hints to see if she responds favorably, or spend some time away from her and ith somebody else you might find attractive. Absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder. Wuite the opposite, in fact...
2006-10-10 10:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an extremely fine line between friends who respect your lesbianism and wanting to play tag. Don't cross the line! It's better to have a friend you can talk with, rather than just a sex partner. Many straight people, are afraid to befriend people who are gay. Let's prove them wrong by being platonic friends, and dismissing your sexual feelings towards her.
2006-10-10 11:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to stop thinking it is going to scare her off. You need to talk with her and shair your feelings . she may be feeling the same way and also affried of what you may think about how she is feeling. Take a deep breth and then go talk with her I am sure you will feel better once you say something. Good luck.
2006-10-10 14:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should maybe flirt with her more or maybe one day pull her to the side and tell her how you feel. If she is a good friend then it wont matter to her and she wont start acting funny about you telling her that.
2006-10-10 14:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by DanceDiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you afraid to come outside, you can't play with my friends but you can play with butters and timmy, respect my authoriti
2006-10-10 10:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋