But I love her and I want her but it's true we didnt get along the best while we were together because we fought. I believe in a religion that says its wrong to be homosexual. I like her. Is that because of sin? How do I become straight? Is that possible? I feel like I don't want anyone else if I can't have her. It's weird. Help!
2006-10-10 10:15:00 · 25 answers · asked by stranger 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She is right you are wrong, start living in the here and now. Start to accept people that are different than you. Remember the rest of the world is different than you.
Be good be nice, respect others
2006-10-10 10:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Slow down, too many questions.
Let's go through them one at a time.
1) Don't try getting an "ex" back, there's no need to open old wounds.
2) Some religions believe homosexuality is a sin, but not all. Nor do all denominations of those same religions, all agree.
3) You can "pretend" to be straight, but you cannot actually become something you are not. Just as if you are right handed and you lost the use of that hand. You would learn to use your left hand, but it doesn't change the fact that you are naturally right handed.
4) No, it is not possible.
5) Your last statement is a huge red flag of a disorder known as Obsession. You need to back off, get a life of your own, without her. If you cannot do this, seek professional help. You are a danger to her and yourself.
2006-10-10 10:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being gay.
Go to http://www.godmademegay.com and read the letter there. It talks about homosexuality and the Bible.
It isn't a sin because you like her. You can't "become" straight, just like you can't "become" gay. You are or you aren't that's all there is to it.
Why do you care so much what that particular part of the Bible says? It also mentions killing people who divorce and eat shellfish...do you do those things too??
2006-10-10 11:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is be yourself.In-spite of what anyone will say and what religious books are quoted, your happiness is in being yourself.And if you find happiness being a heterosexual then be so.If not then perhaps try learning about religious organizations and churches that accept you for who you are as a gay/lesbian person.Who you love is not a sin.But if you can only see it as a sin then perhaps you need to find some people, from both sides of the issue, who are trained in religion(preacher/Rabbi/priest) and discuss your feelings and religious obligations.Also, I would seek local counseling.Not to make you straight or gay but to just identify with yourself and allow yourself to be given the chance to understand who you are.A good counselor would never try to "fix" who you are.They would merely teach you why and how to live with that.There is no pill or treatment that is guaranteed to make you straight.It is a matter of being true to yourself-gay or straight.
2006-10-10 10:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
oh my god this is so scary cuz the same thing happened between me and my girlfriend. I broke up wit her because it was a sin to be gay but i was miserable without her. I think that even if it is a sin it shouldnt stop you 2 from being together cause you cant help who you fall in love wit. Maybe yall need to sit down and talk about the situation. I ended up apologizing to my girl and asking her to take me back cuz i had made a huge mistake.
2006-10-10 14:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by DanceDiva 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to become straight? Not really. You can reframe yourself as a straight woman struggling with unwanted lesbian feelings, but you'll probably never be plain old straight. To read more:
http://www.advocate.com/exclusive_detail_ektid37175.asp
I think you need to deal with your religious issues before you date anyone honestly. Find a nice gay affirming church in your area, try Metropolitan Community Church or United Church of Christ. Spend some time learning and praying, and growing as your own person. Meet more gay people and reduce your sense of isolation, you'll find that lots of gays have gone through what you are going through and you can find support in that. Then if you still have strong feelings for your ex, call her up and see where it goes.
2006-10-10 10:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well then, if your religion says that being homosexual is wrong and that you're going to hell for being who you are, then it looks like you have an even bigger problem than girlfriend trouble. Maybe it's time you took a look at what's really behind all that "God hates fags!" BS before trying to make a lesbian relationship work. It just might help a little...
2006-10-10 10:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You love her, and it looks like you're going to have to make a choice.
Your church is not the only game in town. There are many churches that are accepting of LGBTs. Perhaps you need to try some of those, and get some new books. Get some new tapes in your head.
As for getting her back, I don't know if that will happen. But you clearly need to resolve some issues in yourself, and open yourself up to real happiness. I think you were wanting this sort of advice when you logged into this section.
2006-10-10 10:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion can only make things complicated for anyone.
Keep in mind that most wars in this world were waged because of religious beliefs.
But I'm not gonna tell you to stop giving importance to your religious beliefs.
However, you're going to have to weigh things out. You did break up because of your religious beliefs. But are you happy about it?
And if you go back to her, will you be happy about giving up part of your religious beliefs?
These are just some of the things you will have to weigh.
Personally, I believe in a God who wants all of us to be happy, as long as we don't trample on anyone else's happiness.
I chose to live my life in the here and now.
But I still maintain my religious beliefs. I am even a practicing Christian.
Good luck!
2006-10-10 14:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has someone mixed you up, if you are a good person then love another woman, don't let idiots tell you it is wrong to love another human being. Why would you want to live a lie? I wouldn't. I am lesbian, and I don't feel sinful, who told you such garbage. Go, get your girl back and be happy.
2006-10-12 06:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God says, religion is a man-made concept and has nothing to do with me so you really should try and make peace with yourself over it. That said, if you always fought when you were together don't you think that maybe it just really isn't meant to be?
2006-10-10 11:04:49 · answer #11 · answered by God 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋