How come when a couple is together for so long they stop doing certain things?

Question

Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 &1/2 years and we don't kiss each other no more . We give each other a peck here and there but no feeling to it,not even before sex or during sex,I mean there is no tounge involved or a pasionate kiss. Is the spark gone ? Why do people quit being the person they first started out to be?

Answer 1

I know this feeling all too well. You stop holding hands in the store, in public. You stop showing each other the affection you once did. You stop calling each other the pet names you gave each other when you first got together.
But... It is a simple thing to fix. Kiss him like you want to be kissed. Reach out and hold his hand while he is driving. You can relight that spark.
Fighting more and more? Be the bigger person and let the little things go. Stop the argument before it gets out of hand, and when he is expecting you to yell back, jump up and hug him. It only leaves if you let it.
I have been married for 2 1/2 yrs now, and we are deciding to separate. We have two young children (2 yrs and 3 wks). It is hard. Looking back, I wish I would have taken these steps.

Answer 2

I think when a couple stops doing certain things, the spark is gone.

You two might still care for each other but if you can't put the same "oomph" into your relationship, it might be time to look elsewhere.

You can try to revive it by surprising him with a great big smack on the lips, complete with tongue and body contact, but it seems like kissing has become more of a formality in the relationship.

It might be time to move on.

Answer 3

It will always be good at first when things are new. But once you guys have settled down and committed to one another its like why do you have to try as hard to keep that spark. You already have each other. It is just a matter of been there done that mentality. So come up with new ideas and things for you to do with each other. If he doesn't kiss you shove your tongue down his throat and make the sparks fly. Good luck!

Answer 4

People start to take each other for granted and they forget that the little things that it took to get the person are the same little things that are needed to maintain the relationship. Also, most couples don't do anything to keep the relationship interesting. They fall into a mundane routine. Why don't you try something different and see how he responds.

Answer 5

Life is to complicated, not enough time to just enjoy each other, too much t.v., computors, movies, drinking, partying, working, it's time we all take a stand & bolt & refuse to do anything unless we get our passionate kisses back, I think we just get way too comfortable & forget what is really important to each of us, I love being touched & kissed but I like you never get those things anymore, I really miss it too. Maybe we can get this straightened out if we all work together, lets give it shot, have a great day.

Answer 6

Sound like you both have grown in different directions. If the spark is gone and neither one of you has done anything to try and light it again I think you know the answer.

Answer 7

Man, you are REALLY overreacting.

People change, grow, transform, mutate, whatever you want to call it. Couples do the same thing. If kissing is that important to you then let him know.

My wife and I don't do anything we did when we started going out.

FP

Answer 8

maybe you should point these thiings out to him.He may have notices it to. We never went out when we dated( maybe once). Now I make up reasons to make a cake or go out to eat. just to be out.