especially in cases when they have opted for surgery [not everyone]
2006-10-10 09:45:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Anxiety, knowledge deficit, pain, guilt, situational depression, helplessness, dependence on others, fear of death, the perception that the body had betrayed one...all these can cause significant changes in a person's behavior. I deal with this on a daily basis. If you work in health care, remember this and try to be tolerant and compassionate. Try to ignore the rudeness and keep in the back of your mind that this person may be in pain, very afraid and unsure of the surgical outcome. Pain may be the biggest factor in this Jekyll-Hyde transformation. It being elective surgery only means that they've had time to think about the possible risks.
You must know that especially in this place, Yahoo! Answers, an innocent question can elicit responses of "You definitely have cancer!" It could also be that some of the rude people have been given wrong and misleading information and fear the worst.
Try not to let it bother you. It's hard, I know, but try.
Note to "Dee": I work with Filipina nurses and yes they do get "him" and "her" mixed up but it's only in language usage not in clinical practice. I guarantee you they don't make this mistake when speaking Tagalog. And I guarantee you they knew your husband was male.
2006-10-10 10:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a nurse that workes in a medicine ward. While there is a potential for many patients to stop caring for themselves, not all do. There is a lot of cases where people will start to rely on staff and family to do tasks they can themselves do. In these cases, these people do exhibit rude behaviours.This can be caused by a variety of reasons. Reasons range from direct influence of the condition to personalities. However, this does not happen to everyone. Some people do maintain their independance and activity. I highly encourage anyone entering the hospital setting, to maintiain their independance for the following reasons: the nursing staff must prioritize life threatening tasks over simple tasks such as bringing blinkets (we do not ignore people or want to avoid work) and usually there always is a more important task, and second, it is important to recovery to walk, move and stretch.
2006-10-12 13:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by cshipton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it is optional surgery...if it is surgery it is not something they can normally control. They are angry at the loss of control and fearful of their outcome. If you work in that setting try putting yourself in their situation. If they opted for a breast enhancement they obviously feel they are missing something that they need so they feel bad that they weren't born with large breasts and they are fearful because they are going under..and will experience a lot of pain when they wake up.
2006-10-10 09:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Eleanor R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Racheee, they don't become rude and pathetic, they already are. They're just letting it show, because they think that they can get away with it. And the poor nurses and surrounding environment has to suffer all that.
Hope it works out well for you in the end. Cheers,Mel
2006-10-10 09:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by ArtCafe 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it could be because of the relative powerlessness of patients in the hospital. If I want a glass of water, I get it. But if I'm in the hospital and my water pitcher is empty, I have no idea how to get water (I might not even be able to get up - maybe I'm hooked up to tubes and stuff). So I have no choice but to ask someone, which sounds pathetic but it's the only way to get water. Then, the nurses are busy and put me off, and I get more and more irritated because all I wanted was a stupid glass of water, and it just gets worse and worse...
2006-10-10 09:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by Noelle 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would guess that they no longer feel in control and are in a strange environment, so become defensive and awkward. Try asking them a few questions or ask if they are worried about anything. They may just need friendship and a little support.
2006-10-10 10:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by TeeJay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling vulnerable and scared I think - Lets face it, nursing in NHS is cr*p - my husband was in hospital after a heart attack, and the phillipino nurses kept referring to him as "her"!!. What chance have you got when they can't even work out your gender?!! God it was dreadful, and I am dreading one of us having to be admitted again. You're life in their hands - I don't think so! Private is the way to go, you are treated like a human being and sensitively cared for - anyone out there without private insurance - go get some - We are now old enough that the premiums are out of our reach, but wish we had subscribed when we were younger.
2006-10-10 09:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by deebradley2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they're elderly they quite often get treated like second class citizens by the usually younger staff, who feel them a nuisance and time consuming.
2006-10-10 09:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mogseye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their adrenalin is probably up because they are frightened about what is happening so they are ready for flight or fight. hence the aggressive/rude behaviour either that or they are feeling sorry for themselves!!!
2006-10-10 09:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Rob S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because who wants to be in hospital!!!! thats why they become rude and pathetic!!
2006-10-10 10:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by NOT TELLING YOU LOL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋