the reason why i am asking this question is because my daughter has a feeding tube and she cart feed or drink and when we go out people or always stareing all the time why?
2006-10-10 09:40:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
People are naturally curious and I'm sure they are looking to fulfil their curiosity and not to upset you or your child.
I worked with disabled children and I just got used to the fact that people stare and it never worried me, I just got on with whatever we were doing.
2006-10-10 10:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by slipper 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi Lottie
It's just human nature and ignorance, maybe even an irrational fear that it may be contageous. Most people do not have much contact with disablement,so when they do they react with a mix of emotions ranging from curiosity to repugnance and pity.
I must admit to being the same when I was younger. My opinion changed in the 80s when I was living with my Aunt and two of my three cousins. My other cousin came for a visit she is quite severely Autistic. It fell to me one day to look after her for a few hours and amuse her. She was in her twenties at the time and loved going to the pub (no alcohol tho) so arm in arm we went off to the local, a lovely little country inn. It was then that I noticed the starers. Well, I became fiercely protective of her staring back at them until they lowered their gaze.
Since then I have been on more than a nodding aquaintance with disablement. My best friend became disabled after an accident at work and my wife suffers a horrible rheumatic disease that leaves her virtually unable to walk or paint (artwise)or even cook and these were things that she loved to do.
So until circumstances affect either them, or the people that they love then it will always be down to curiosity,pity,fear and loathing. They will always see the disablement and not the person i'm afraid.
2006-10-10 10:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by wizard prang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity and fear - they would like to know what's wrong but don't like to ask you. The majority don't mean to upset you - it's just human nature I'm afraid.
Have you never stared at someone with a really bad hairdo, or who's morbidly obese, or who has a noticable scar or birhtmark? We try not to stare, we know it's not nice to stare, but everybody does it sometimes.
Without meaning to cause offense, maybe you're also expecting people to stare and so you notice it more? Just get on with what you're doing and ignore it as best you can and enjoy being with your daughter. It's a case of mind over matter - you try not to mind coz they don't matter.
2006-10-10 10:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't let it get to you Lottie I know it must have a profound effect on you but always remember a lot of people might stare but its with compassion but there are the few who haven't a feeling for anyone except themselves so disregard those people they aren't worth a thought and hold your head high and think that most folk are good and they don't mean to hurt you in anyway. I hope there is a recovery time for your little girlie have faith and it will all come right in the end
2006-10-10 09:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People fear differences, it go's back to primitive times when differences where a sign of disease or sickness and therefore a threat to the clan well being. You would hope we could all rise above this primal fear in today's modern world. My best friend grew up with a cleft palate,I didn't notice because he was familiar, and therefore not a threat, but I did notice the looks other people gave him. Stay strong, be happy, engage with people and they will change their attitudes, I wish you all the very best.....
2006-10-10 10:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Stevie t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question, its because they are different.
As many have said, thats simply human nature, but dont be offended by the looks, they are not meant in harm or ridicule, its just curiosity.
And bear in mind that your used to seeing your daughter like that, so you might not think its much out of the ordinary. your also used to what she needs and how she needs to be treated. Others will be uncomfortable because they dont know what they need to do if they havent been in that situation.
Try not to take it as insulting, its not meant that way.
2006-10-10 10:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by bartmanekul 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its our quest for perfection. We first use our eyes, so some thing different alarms us. Prompting a question how do I react? A person may look "normal", so we approach. Next we use smell. If some something smells bad you normally walk away or pull a face. The smell is not perfect so we walk away. It's the way we're programmed.
2006-10-10 09:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by sarahwato 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they feel sorry and wish they could help? I don't really know but there is still some good people out there so don't forget that with a million frowns there is always a billion smiles..
2006-10-10 09:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 15:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's human nature, a normal trait we've picked up. all animals are like this. think of this way - if there are a thousand red dots but only one blue dot then which dot are you most likely to stare at? they're curious, they're not trying to be rude or intrusive
2006-10-10 10:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋