For mom's only please?

Question

I have a four year old little girl from a pervious relationship, it didn't work out. A little after she was born he was put in jail for 15yrs. About one year after he was gone I met this really nice guy. We just had a baby a little girl. I ve been with him since my first child was one. So as you can see see bacisly see him as her dad. Just recently she started calling him daddy. Do you think it's right or wrong. My husband says that even though she's not his blood she is still his daughter. I don't know how I should handle this sitution.

Answer 1

im sorry im not a mom but its erfectally normal for her too see him as her daddy its better then her thinking she doesnt have a daddy because hes in jail i hope that heelps

Answer 2

You don't have a situation to handle. A child has a right to call someone mommy or daddy if they feel like they are. Her real daddy isn't getting out until she is 13 or 14 and by then she is going to know that dad is her stepdad but none the less, he is daddy. He is the one there for her, helping you with her, loving her, and excepting her the same way he does his own child. There is nothing to handle here. You have a REAL family with this man, and should be thrilled your little girl loves him and trusts him and sees the man you love as her daddy. I am a stepmom. My little girl is 3. She tells everyone that she has 2 mommies. Me and her real mommy. I love her as if she was my own blood. You would never know that I wasn't the one that carried her for 9 1/2 months. She knows I love her, and she knows my name and she chooses to call me mommy. For me, it is an honor to be her mommy and I love to hear her call me mommy. I am a very poud stepmother. I assure you, your husband feels the same way I do everytime your little girl calls him daddy. Its a feeling that is amazing and just feels good in your heart. That a child loves you that much, and trusts you that much to see you as a REAL parent. I hope you relax and just enjoy that your daughter loves your husband and has a daddy that loves her and is there for her. Blessed be.

Answer 3

Your husband may feel that your four year old is his daughter because he's been the only father she's known but the fact is that she already has a father. You need to make sure that she knows who her daddy is. Whether he's in her life or not. I don't think her daddy would appreciate her calling your husband daddy. Or for that matter your husband claiming her as his daugher. I would never allow my children to call another man daddy. It's just wrong.

Answer 4

I have 2 daughters from a previous marriage and they both call my husband now dad. He feels the same way. He's raised them as his own and accepted responsibility for them when their biological father hasn't. I don't see what's wrong with it as long as you are open and honest with your daughter about the situation. I tell my daughters that any man can become a father but a takes a real man to be a dad. Just be glad that you have a good man.

Answer 5

Nothing wrong with her calling him Daddy he practically is her Daddy. He is the male romodel in the family. He is supporting her and doing everything a real Daddy should be doing. I think you need to tell her that is not her real daddy but let her call him what she wants. If I was your husband I would be honored that she is calling me daddy but of course I am a woman lol.

Answer 6

Be greatful that your husband accepts her like that. When the real dad gets out of jail she will be at the age to understand everything better. Let her be she needs a father figure in her life not a jail bird.

Answer 7

For now just him play that role. The real father is not coming out anytime soon. When she is a little older and can understand more then you can explain to her the situation but that she should still love him. at the age she is now she will probably be calling any male figure dad. My daughter is one and half and she calls my mom my cousin and her god mother mom. So don't stress it.

Answer 8

I believe it is OK, that is the only man she has seen with you and your other daughter. At a later age, you can explain the circumstances, but for now, let it be. A child needs to parents and for you to tell her, he is your sister daddy and not yours at this time it might hurt her too much. Wait, you have a lifetime in which you can explain this to her.
What I would do is write her a letter now, just in case something, God forbids, happens to you and someone else can give it to her then.
She is a child let her enjoy her family, mommy, daddy, sis, and herself.

Answer 9

Let your daughter have a daddy. I had that problem and I let my child call my new man daddy now she is 7 and she know that it ain't her real father but still love him. He does everything for her as if she was his. Children just need to feel they belong. So let it be.

Answer 10

if you intend to stay with this man then of course there is nothing wrong with your daughter calling him daddy, and of course he loves her. it'll be nice for your two little girls to feel they share the same kin.
also, i would think about whether or not (or when) to let your first little girl know that she has a 'biological' father out there somewhere....( the younger your child is the more accepting she will be to this information) .....bear in mind, he may be back one day.

Answer 11

I'm a stepmom and speaking from experience, I can say- there's nothing wrong with it but you do need to explain to her what the situation is so that she won't be confused or hurt later in her life. ('you have 2 daddies that love you very much' .. kinda thing). She will need to know who her biological father is- when she's older she can decide for herself who her real father is- and it'll be the one that was there for her all of her life.