The father of my child's family contains the following. A controlling mother, an abusive brother, a stupid sister, and a stupid sister in law who is married to the bro. They were all over for The 4th and my boyfriend's sister proudly announced that the sister in law told her she could go in the bathroom and bathe naked with the 2 year old little boy. She did so. I was grossed out that a 28 year old woman was bathing with her brother's child. I understand she wants to be a mother badly because her husband left her but bathing with someone else's baby crosses the line for me. I dont care what gender the baby or the bather are. My boyfriend says he would let her bathe with our child when its born. I DO NOT WANT HER DOING THAT. Yuck! What do you think?
2006-10-10 09:16:28 · 58 answers · asked by KelBean 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
and Im not being perverted. I am very mature for my age. So stop it or I will flag your post.
2006-10-10 09:20:51 · update #1
There are a few moral issues involved here. While it may be plausable for mom to go bathing with her infant of 6 months, it is not acceptable for someone else, such as a aunt to do the same. To do the same with a 2 year old I find totally unacceptable under any circumstance since I feel that it violates my religious and moral standards.
2006-10-10 09:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by pbuchta 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I understand your point. Not only is it not right for moral reasons but also from a hygiene stand point. No matter how close knit the family is that should not be allowed. Even as far as bathing with a child of your own should only be permitted when they are infants. At two they are naturally curious and therefore should be put into a tub with a few toys and be bathed that way.
2006-10-10 13:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think it was kind of weird too, but maybe you are overreacting a little. Maybe your boyfriend was just kidding when he said that because he knew you were grossed out. Anyway, you don't have to let anyone do anything with your child once it is born if you don't want them to. Its your child, just bathe it before the family comes over, and then no one will need to get in the tub!
2006-10-10 09:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Diane A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder why a 28 yr old woman would need to bathe with a 2 yr old child. Giving the child a bath is quite different. That's what I might suggest.
2006-10-10 09:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Cupcake 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to the parents. They can let their 2 year old bathe with whoever they want, as long as it's someone who won't abuse the kid. Just taking a bath together is not abuse, and there's nothing wrong with it.
If you don't feel comfortable with letting your child bathe with someone, that's totally up to you--you don't have to allow it. Your boyfriend must respect your wishes on this.
2006-10-10 09:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by rainfingers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very wrong.Especially scense it ain't even her child. I have a 10 month old and when she was younger about 4-6 months old I would sit in the bath water with her but I would wear my swimsuit.I think bathing with a child that is not yours is crossing the line.
2006-10-10 10:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In that situation I would be uneasy. It just sounds weird to me I bath with both of my girls because of a bad back.(they are 2 & 4) I personally would have no problem if my mother or sister were to take a bath with my girls becuase I totally trust them & KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that they would do nothing inapporpriate. I also think that at the ages my girls are now that my mom & sister would probably be uncomfortable bathing with my girls, but if they weren't it wouldn't bother me in the least. In the situationyou described though I would be a bit uneasy & probably wouldn't let it happen, jsut because she seems a bit too excited for it to happen.
2006-10-10 09:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by mamabens 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's very odd that she would even WANT to bathe w/someone else's child. I know I wouldn't. I think it's okay for a parent to bathe w/their child, but even that can be unappropriate after a certain age. I don't think you're wrong for not wanting your child to bathe w/someone else. In this day and age, you have to be wary of even letting someone else bathe your child w/o your (or someone you really trusts) supervision. I think you should stand firm on your decision.
2006-10-10 09:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by llsBabygirl918 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a mother & a sister this would never happen! I would never let my sister or anyone else bath with my sons. My husband will at times when we are in a really big hurry but I would never let anyone else (even myself) bath with my sons. If someone did this without my permission I would not allow them to enteract with my child again unsuperzied!
2006-10-10 09:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by staxi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is completely sick. Its not up to her to bathe with other people's children. 2 year olds pick up on things quickly(depending on the person) I think that kid should be bathed alone unless it has siblings because come on now we all bathed with our siblings when we were real young. If I were you I would say something to her and tell her to get a psychological Analysis.
2006-10-10 09:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋