2006-10-10 08:54:02 · 8 answers · asked by lildil404 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok you want advice. Here it is.
1. tell your hubby to drop the step off of son. He keeps saying that and it begins to really sink in that the boy isn't really his which will create a barrier of closeness between them.
2. treat the boy as if he is his own son. to be alienated is a horrible thing.
3. the boy is still young they will have to both grow emotionally with eachother.
4. and last remind him that you guys are a family and it doesn't matter how you guys came together what matters is that all of you are there with eachother.
2006-10-10 09:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that HE is the DAD, he is the one this child will grow trying to be like, he/she will learn from him, this child is a world on itself and deserves every kindness...this child will not be small for ever and one day he will love your husband for all the love and support given, for being a father more than a step dad. I came into my daugther's life when she was 5 and even when her dad still visits, she chose to call me dad on her own and that is a great gift.
2006-10-10 16:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by swordlord23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the key to being a good step parent is to stay out of your and other parents difference over the kids. and not to discipline the child. i am a step parent of five and it is really hard. i love them like my own but there are times you have to step back and let the other parents Handel the situation
2006-10-10 15:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can think of to give him is to not be afraid to tell your kid when he is upset with him/her. And when they start to get a little older, he needs to not be afraid to ask them to do chores or something around the house. Never let him complain about your child through you. Have him go directly to the child. Trust me, my stepdad always complained about us or was upset with us for something and he took it out on my mom instead of coming to me and my brother. Because of that, me and my brother never had any respect for him and still don't. Just a recommendation from experience. make sure he treats your child like one of his own.
2006-10-10 16:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well He can be there for her like a father...for example help you out in things she might needs for school. Play with her but....... he should never ever put his hands on her to punish her. He could be there for her but he has to remember he is not the father so he does not have the right to hit her even if he helps you to raise her. I have a great step father...we have had our discussions(arguments) But i do respect him. He has never put his hand on me But he has always been there like a father to me....Till this day he helps me out and I see him as my second father.
2006-10-10 16:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to treat him as if he were his own and to love him the same way. To be there for him and to give him support and proper guidance when needed
2006-10-10 16:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you, then he should love every part of you, especially your child,tell him that not everybody has good character, like he does, and that you know he will be a wonderful father.
2006-10-10 16:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to tell him is to be himself. if you love him, your child will too. and he can make the child feel special by doing things just for your child.
2006-10-10 15:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋