I have a BF that I live with. We have been dating for 3 years.... It is boring... I have tried everything to spice it up. We have talked for hours about each others needs and wants. I love sex, he likes sex. I need it at least every other day, he will take it once every other week. He is as faithful, as the day is long and worships me. All of his friends adore me, I am fun, funny, sexy, educated and a great mom and I pamper him like crazy. I give him whatever he wants. We have very busy schedules, careers, kids, new home and he coaches at college level. Now myy ex husband (we were married 7 years) Is still deeply in love with me. I care about him but I am not in love with him. The sex we had was AWESOME! If he can't have me back, he at least wants to hook up every now and then no strings attached. No one would ever be the wiser. I have been thinking alot about doing it. I had this incredible dream about him last night and I am dying today.... Any Advise?
2006-10-10 08:53:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go for it... sounds like fun fun fun
2006-10-11 02:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you divorced your husband, then you shouldn't even be thinking about having sex with him, especially if you are dating a great guy that loves you. Relationships are about more than just having sex. If your new BF doesn't want to have sex all the time, then you should respect his feelings, not run off and have sex with your ex. I think that the right thing to do is staring you in the face. Unless you're planning on going back to your ex, under no circumstances should you be having sex with anyone except the man you are with.
2006-10-10 16:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by bonca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure your BF may not be the most physically focused guys around but he seems dreamy when it comes to "worshiping". You two have kids together? Sounds like you've got something going there and life doesn't last forever. I'd keep him, settle down and get married. Forget the ex. He wants you once in a while for sex? Who does he think you are? Are you that kind of person? Sounds like you'd be making a mistake.
2006-10-10 16:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise? Yeah, stay away from the ex.
Unless risking your great life - career, kids, new home, good bf - is worth it. If you really sit down and think about what you could lose, and then compare that to sex...
2006-10-10 16:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by jwb674 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Could you really respect yourself if you did? Could you look at your bf or look at yourself in mirror and not feel guilty? I think that if you have any feelings for your boyfriend, you would not do it - you are asking us all for permission, when you know what is right.
I have found that the sex with your ex - really isn't as good as you remember.
2006-10-10 16:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by here I am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ,unless you leave your boyfriend it is not fair to him and if you have any kind of conscience it will bother you if you aren't happy with your boyfriend now sleeping with your x will not help anything good luck and think carefully before you make a decision
2006-10-10 16:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by vesta k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To quote the men: "Who cares where you get your appetite, so long as you eat at home."
Darlin, take all that, and blow your man's mind. Teach him something. Maybe he'll learn.
2006-10-10 20:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - do your boyfriend a favor and dump him so he can find someone that actually loves him before you start screwing around on him. He deserves better.
2006-10-10 16:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull urself together it isnt all about so, ask yourself 1st why did u get a divorce on the 1st place
Good Luck
2006-10-10 16:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are among the few that can seperate emotions from sex jump on it. otherwise stay away.good luck either way
2006-10-10 16:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by desayunogratis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋