ok my BF asked me to marry him but the problem I am haveing is I want kids and he can not have any more!what should I tell him I mean I love him so much but the one thing I have always wanted he can not give me! I have always wanted kids and know he just tells me he can't have any when he asked me to marry him!!! I mean I am happy he told me but sooner would have been better! I mean I just do not know what to do and I really want my own and I don't wanna adopt. I kno it sounds mean but I have always wanted my own. what should I do???
2006-10-10 08:49:42 · 16 answers · asked by The Irish Princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well just tell him straight up how you feel, tell him you wanna have children, and that he shouldve told you before because now you are confused... if you love him so much, you could always adopt....
2006-10-10 08:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bf like that, he already had 2 kids from a previous marriage and didnt want anymore, so i had no choice i left him... i finaly married someone else and have a son and i think back at him and no way would i change my decision if i had to do it again.... someone who is not willing to grow with u, doesnt love u, u have the right to be a mother, dont let someone take that away from u, its the best feeling in the world!
2006-10-10 08:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you will stay with him regardless, right? I have thought about this before. And I feel the same way you do and I want childern of my own not someone else. But, I have thought of it this way and those childern need love too. Just because a doctor says he can't have childern anymore doesn't mean that's for sure. If God has a plan for you to have childern then you will. Doctor's don't know everything. I hope I have helped you! God Bless
2006-10-10 08:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is tough. Does he WANT kids? I mean, to be a parent to kids? Maybe he would be open to a sperm donor or something so you could have children but they just would not biologically be his? Talk openly with him and tell him exactly what you put in this question and see where the conversation takes you. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!!
2006-10-10 08:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about adopting children? I know you said you want your own but there are so many kids out there without loving homes. You say you love your fiance, then show him you love him and adopt children. After the first time you hold them, they will be yours and no one elses.
2006-10-10 09:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Scott B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this man then, his not being able to have children shouldn't hurt you! I know that it is hard but you need to think about his feelings too! Talk to him and tell him how you feel! You could also look into having artificial insemination. But make sure that this is something that he wants too! If not you really need to think through this! As hard as it may be!
Is it worth not having children or would it be worse to have to live without your man?
2006-10-10 08:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always artificial insemination. Just because your soon-to-be husband is packing blanks (sorry, I couldn't resist) doesn't mean you'll never get to give birth to a child. Go together to a donor clinic and speak with a consultant.
2006-10-10 09:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by KL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheap. Its not easy. But in SOME cases it is still possible. You will probably have to have a testtube baby, as in the fertilization of your egg is done in a dish and then your egg is reinserted. Its not sexy but it has happened and possibly still could happen.
I had a classmate that was one of the first American doctors to perform the artificial insemination of this type. He went into medicine hoping to find a cure for cancer but changed his emphasis. We used to tease him that he did that in order to meet girls.
2006-10-10 09:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always go to a sperm bank. Just because he's not the biological father doesn't mean that he can't be their dad. If you really do love him you should look into other options like that.
2006-10-10 08:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by JayEmmBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not mean ur just thinking ahead, u should tell him how u feel about the situation before answering him b/c u know what u want.
2006-10-10 08:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by pg#3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋