I am due in less then two weeks and I am living 250 miles away from the baby's father. I live in WI and am curious as to how far he can take the baby. Any ideas about who could help me with this? I also have concerns about him takeing the baby while I am breast feeding. It is a 3 hour drive to his house from mine and I don't know if I will be able to supply enough milk for a weekend or something like that.
2006-10-10 08:31:20 · 7 answers · asked by Michelle S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You would have to check the laws regarding child custody and visitation with your particular state. As for breast feeding...have you ever heard of breast pumps and bottles?
2006-10-10 08:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you for making sure that your unborn child's father remains a part of his/her life. Sharing custody of a newborn is not the same as,say a child that is even just over a year old. Your concerns are valid. Possibly you can work out a schedule with the father to spend "hours" of time (at your house or an agreed to location) with the baby until it is truly old enough to be away from you. Breastfeeding is a HUGE thing and I can honestly say that if a court got involved, it is very doubtful that a judge would let him take the baby away from you for more than two hours at a time. Since you are so willing to keep the father apart of your baby's life, I am assuming you have a cordial relationship with him. I would really try and suggest that for at least the first 6+ months, he spend his time with his child at a location that is convenient for breastfeeding the baby. Maybe he could spend up to 8 hours of a Saturday (for example) at your house WITH YOU THERE.
Anyway, good luck in your situation. You have alot to take into consideration and I hope it all works out.
mb
2006-10-10 16:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here in Illinois, you are the parent, seeing you're the mother and you are not married. By him signing the birth certificate...that means he gets to pay child support. That doesn't mean he has parental rights. For parental rights to be established, you need a court to establish it. So basically if you are on good terms with him..it's important for a baby to establish a bond with both parents...the formula thing will work it's self out as someone previously said. If you guys are not on good terms, don't let him take the baby for weekend visits. As for how I know all this, did the court thing and all that, not because of a bad father, but because he had no rights in Illinois to our son. My sons father could take him to the hospital for an er visit or something...they wouldn't have to give him back to him...so it was just an protective type thing.
2006-10-10 15:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Deb W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid i dont live in america so cant help you with much. but i just wanted ti suggest maybe him not taking the baby right away. while the baby is so young he/she is going to want his mother alot and will be feeding on demand espically with breast feeding. i think maybe the father visiting at your home for afew hours would be better than traveling for 3 hours there and back. 3 hour dive is hard enough for a toddler let alone for a newborn baby! i wouldnt allow him to take the baby so far. arrange something else until your child is older. good luck
2006-10-10 15:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by alrightyyy_then 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely file for custody, if not then he can take the baby anywhere. You can always use a breast pump. Or maybe until the baby gets older the father can come down for the weekends to visit.
2006-10-10 15:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is my understanding that even if you were married to the man is is illegal for him to take the child out of the state without first notifying the other parent.
by the way i live in TX.
you really should look into this because, it is obviously something you will have to keep dealing with, if you two are not together.
also the breastfeeding thing will work itself out. once you are adjusted to breastfeeding and your supply is built up, you would be able to save up enough milk in bottles for the weekend, it would not be any different if you were working while breast feeding. just have to keep up your supply.
good luck!
2006-10-10 15:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by jenzen25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to work that out through the courts. The judge will decide how far he can take the baby and for how long.
2006-10-10 15:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by LMJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋