I have a BF that I live with. We have been dating for 3 years.... It is boring... I have tried everything to spice it up. We have talked for hours about each others needs and wants. I love sex, he likes sex. I need it at least every other day, he will take it once every other week. He is as faithful, as the day is long and worships me. All of his friends adore me, I am fun, funny, sexy, educated a great mom and I pamper him like crazy. I give him whatever he wants. We has a very busy schedule, careers, kids, new home and he coaches at college level. My ex husband (we were married 7 years) Is still deeply in love with me. I care about him but I am not in love with him. The sex was AWESOME! He wants to hook up every now and then no strings attached. No one would ever be the wiser. I had this incredible dream about him last night and I am dying today.... Any Advise?
2006-10-10 08:31:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
snack dad... I am with ya on that answer... problem is my BF is open to any 3 somes I want..... just not with my ex... he can't stand him because he is well aware that he is till in love with me and he makes it known.
2006-10-10 09:27:21 · update #1
I don't see any problems with it. You aren't married it isn't like you haven't tried to alk to him... go for it just keep it on the down low.....
2006-10-10 09:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are willing to deal with and accept the consequences that will eventually catch up with you. Then go right ahead,if you really want to do this no one in the world can stop you. It is 100 percent likely that at some point things will come crashing down. No one would be the wiser "for say 2 weeks, 5 months, a year, 3 years and one hour eight minutes six seconds", Then one day the house of cards falls. It is highly unlikely that anyone will escape the fallout that will eventually come. I'd just dump the boyfriend of three years and get the "emotional pain stuff over and done with" Then go off to get your "Jollies"
2006-10-10 08:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie the Riviter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh sh!t...
A friend of mine is going through something similiar. She and her husband of 20 years went through a divorce then got back together 2 years ago. She loves him dearly but there is NO passion. An ex boyfriend is back in the picture and yes, they have been intimate.
The similiarity I see is that you are not married to this man so technically, you can do as you please. However, is it worth wrecking a good thing? And who's to say the ex wouldn't spill the beans if you pissed him off or the wind blew just the right way? You would be taking a huge gamble for a few minutes of physical pleasure on occasion.
Good luck
2006-10-10 08:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why your ex is your ex...do you really want to risk loosing this guy because of sex?...there are such a words as compromise and communication.
Stay away from you ex, it will only end up with someone really getting hurt, you will have lost a great guy all because you couldn't control your sexual needs.
2006-10-10 08:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your NOT married now. Have sex with who ever you want, but don't make your BF think your being faithful. Be open and let him know your dating. He should have freedom to do who he wants too.
Or have a three-some that way your BF can learn something from your ex.
2006-10-10 09:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is a few minutes or a few hours worth loosing what you have at home?Go to your man(current) and take it from him.Don't do it to the point where he is filing rape charges but try explaining to him that you need it as much as you do and try and come up with solutions to help you r current situation.
2006-10-10 09:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by sex-c-one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
U're in a relationship with a great man, but u wanna have sex with ur ex? Is that wat u're asking?
I suggest not to do it :(
2006-10-10 08:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋