i found pormlinks in the yahoo search box so i ask my husband about it and he says he has no idea how they got there....should i believe him.....i know he had a porm addection befor we met
2006-10-10 08:16:25 · 33 answers · asked by Georgia Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe he is very truthful when he says he has "no idea how they got there"--which is not to say that he did not visit the sites, it just says that some parts of the mechanics of using his browser are beyond him.
Fairly, there is a bit of bait and switch that sometimes goes on with some of the spam we get--and he has little control over that, trust me. I've had situations where I clicked on a link to have my name removed from their list and suddenly windows with all kinds of things were popping up and my history was showing that the one click had me visiting something like twenty sites.
He could be lying. He could be skirting the issue and deferring it to "I don't know how those got there" and visited the sites but didn't think about the records kept. He could have got them on there honestly and unintended. We had to change a couple of email addresses one because I was watching Dr. Phil on TV and he told us to visit his site but didn't spell it out. Doing a search there was a site that looked like his and even told about the special he had going and then I got all kinds of junk mail--later I discovered that his was a different spelling but the phoney Dr. Phil had sold my name, address, and email to spam world with the "we've got a live one!" tag attached.
I've a link below that may have some ideas for you.
2006-10-10 08:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read your own words:
i know he had a porm addection
i found pormlinks in the yahoo search box
Of course he's lying- you know he's lying. He was into porn when you married him.
2006-10-10 08:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be telling the truth, possibly. We had an incident happen where something got downloaded onto our PC that was putting porn everywhere. It took forever to get rid of and caused some problems before we talked about it and discovered the real problem.
Or, he could be lying. If he is looking at porn and hiding it from you, you need to calmly talk to him and find out what's really going on. Communication is critical.
2006-10-10 08:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless little elves snuck into your house in the middle of the night and did it, he's lying to you.
Wake up - call him out on it. The lying is no good for a marriage. And along with lying, you now have trust issues. You need to get into counseling before this gets worse.
And if he lies to you again, I would leave. Life is to short to be with someone who betrays and lies to you all the time.
2006-10-10 08:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by jt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid of getting addicted again by the sounds of it which is why he isn't owning up to what he has done...it's obvious the porn sites aren't getting there by themselves, why don't you keep a note of all the sites that he looks at and then switch on the parental control and add these sites to ones that are blocked.
If he really doesn't want to get addicted again he won't mind you doing it, just don't give him the passord to switch the block off, you will be doing it for his benefit, remember.
2006-10-10 08:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by debs1701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is lying when he tells you that you are a good speller.
Women, would you stop freaking out when your guy looks at porn? All guys do it or want to do it, and it's not an addiction, it's called a sex drive, which is why each and every one of us is here on this earth!
2006-10-10 08:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somebody searched for porn. If it wasn't you or anybody else in the house then I would say he is lying. Simple as that. The computer doesn't do it all on its own.
2006-10-10 08:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with allowing this committed man to look at porn? Oh my gosh I watch it with my man, I don't want him feeling ashamed or that he has to lie to me because of his interests. At the very least at least he isn't cheating. Also, if he was lying maybe it's because you give him looks and responses of conviction and you know no one wants to be judged or to feel guilty about anything they know is morally or ethically wrong! Give the man a break!
2006-10-10 08:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi unless someone else has access to your computer then unfortunately it is down to that site or link been viewed so tell him you know he has been viewing them and ask him why he needs to look when he has you.I guess it's better to view them sites to look rather than to have an affair though so tread carefully.Good luck
2006-10-10 08:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had an addiction before you met, and he hasn't resolved it through professional help, he still has that addiction and it should be addressed. If you love him, don't shame him and accuse him, but make him be honest or it will ruin your marriage.
2006-10-10 08:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋