Please Help me get over past...!!!?

Question

When I was in college, I learned that my breath smelled and I wasn't as attractive as I thought. Now my breath is always fresh, and I'm a very polished women but for some reason I can't get over this reality. I keep looking back and feeling "dirty" and wonder what others thought of me back then. And I wish I could change my past. It hurts because I always though of myself as a beautiful women then. Now anytime I want to get a nice outfit or great makeup and ear rings I think that becasue of my pass, no matter how beautiful I become, it will not change the fact that I wasn't elegant at my first college. I get over other things quickly, but for some reason this won't go away.

Please give me so words of wisdom and anything else to help me realize what i feel is riduclous and illogical so perhaps I can move on with my life. Thank you..

I thought I wasn't, but I'm very attractive now becasue I get a lot of compliments and nice stares from guys,

But I still hve my ugly days, But everyone looks pretty to me when I go in public

Answer 1

The best advice I can give you is to grow up. Why are you obsessing over something that happened years ago? Give me a break, everyone should have problems as bad as yours, boo hoo, you had bad breath in colleges, so what.

Answer 2

My Dear Pretty one, First off, to all of those that said negative things to you on this site, I say "shame on you". Everyone has something that they carry that embarrsses them but we can ususally get over it. Here are some ideas that I have tried to overcome painful memories of the past, although not exactly the same as yours, still painful. First of all, have you considered seeing a therapist who might be able to help you get past these things in your past that are keeping your self image negative even though you are smart, beautiful etc., if you don't feel that way on the inside you will never feel that way on the outside no matter what you do...There are classes for people with a negative self image. If money is an issue, they are usually on a sliding scale. Like someone else said if you portray a negative image even if you don't mean to that is the kind of attention you will get. Hold your head up high and think of how far you have come...Another thing is there is this mouth aid called Tri Active that ensure a clean mouth for 24 hours by using the mixture twice a day, it is wonderul.. When you hear in your head the negative things family has said to you in the past, realize that they were probably jealous, did not want you to make something of yourself and by keeping you insecure there was more chance you would never leave them. I know this because I grew up with a mother who was horribly jealous of me and made it apparent that i would never amount to anything..Well surprise , surprise, the more she put me down the better I did just to prove to myself that i was not what she said. You sound like a lovely, delightful person and I know that eventually you will feel that also. Dont' wait to long though, "Live is not a dress rehearsal, we only go around once and live it to the fullest".
My thoughts are with you, and go get 'um girl.
Kathy

Answer 3

I actually relate to this. I'm a tall gorgeous blonde who wears cute clothes, and I used to wear glasses but now I don't, and whenever I look in a mirror I look gorgeous. However, I've been told I smell bad. My teacher last year had to pull me aside and said I was the bad odor in the class, because she always commented on there being a bad smell, and this happened a few times last year also. I wonder if that's the reason my social group is not the "cool" or "popular" group, but I just like to think that I like misfits better. Anyways, it's a horrible feeling, and of course it is something I do a decent amount about. I shower and everything, but anytime someone says "something smells bad" I feel a bit paranoid. So you know what I do? I say "Hmm, I wonder what that is, maybe it's that food over there" or some other excuse. I just try not to hold myself accountable and I just remember that I do look nice and sound nice and just kind of push those memories out of my head. In fact, the one I just mentioned was something I haven't even thought about much since it happened, just don't think about it too much and you'll eventually get over it.

Answer 4

The only way to get over the past is to give up on the hope that it could have been different. You've got to accept that you cannot change what has already been done; and that your past does not define you. If you woke up this morning...you have so much to be thankful for...

It's always about the big picture....Always remember that every breath you continue to make is a blessing...because it also meant that someone, somewhere in the world stopped breathing....

As far as bad breath...who hasn't had a halitosis? And who told you that you weren't attractive...people can be insensitive idiots...your best best is to never let anyone define you....

You are worthy...just because you were born.

Hope this helps.

M.

Answer 5

You can't change your past, but you can direct your future. And you are as attractive as you think. If you feel good about yourself it will show, if you feel badly about yourself, that will negatively affect your outward attractiveness. I'm an average looking woman but my gregarious personality makes me absoutely beautiful & attractive. I'm a few pounds overweight and nearly 40 but I feel sexy. This is coming from someone who's grandmother told her that "you sure were a pretty baby to be as ugly as you are now". You must reframe all negative faults about yourself into positive ones. One more thing, find out the source of your halitosis, because it's not necessarily poor dental hygiene that causes it. You could have or had a serious medical condition. Good luck Beautiful

Answer 6

Living in the past is a waste of time. You will regret it. Live for the future.

You must realize that you weren't what you thought you were, you weren't beautiful and neither was anyone else. Realizing this adds character and makes you a well rounded individual.

Now get over the past and enjoy today and tomorrow. Be happy inside and out and no one, including yourself, will be thinking about what you were like in college.

Answer 7

You have to take each day as it comes, and not be too introspective. Learn from your mistakes, but don't let the risk of making mistakes stop you enjoying your life. You are what you are, and there are people out there who are going to like you, and others who will not. try to take the rough with the smooth, reacting graciously to compliments, and forgiving those who upset you. Noone but you knows your past, and if you have changed as much as you say, there is no reason for them to. Have fun.

Answer 8

Don't change a thing about yourself....other than your attitude. Take a positive route when telling yourself that you are fine, and don't let what happened in the past affect your life today. Everyone has things that they have done in the past, and many aren't proud of these things, but we move on, and continue to better ourselves. You are great the way you are, and take care!

Answer 9

u can over come this. as i read ur question u already show me u have moved on. u say i always thought of myself as a beautiful women. right there u are telling me u are a beautiful women no matter what .so keep ur head up and smile u r a beautiful women.

Answer 10

The past is the past and it is behind you. Live for who you are now and enjoy being who you are. Worrying about the past serves no purpose. Be proud of who you have become and take comfort in that. Have a good day!