i recently found out my partner as been phoning a sex line and now our sex life has went down the plug he dosnt know that i know about it i only found out because the number was on the phone bill what do i do
2006-10-10 07:55:57 · 25 answers · asked by cheeky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try to bring up this topic gently and avoid confrontation. I don't think your partner did this with the intention to hurt you or to make you feel less valued. He could have done it out of curiosity or because of tension at work. It is probably just a short phase that he's going through and please don't let it ruin your relationship.
2006-10-10 08:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to spice up your sex life. Do things for him that you wouldn't usually do but first you need to fine out if he's cheating on you physically. He probably is if he can talk to someone on the phone about actually doing it, then again, guys masturbate in different ways. My man can to a porno so it's basically the same thing. It's still a desire for someone at the time. One thing I've learned is you can't stop a guy from being a guy. He's going to continue doing what he wants to do. Ask him about the phone thing to see if it's just that, now if he denies that he even calls, you can't trust him and it's even more of a possibility that he is cheating.
Good luck girl
2006-10-10 08:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how annoyed you are at him for costing you so much on sex lines when you are more than prepared to satisfy his needs, if he has an excuse that you find excusable then forgive him and try to sort it out so that you are both happy.
Personally I would run as it sounds to me like you got a whole lot of trouble there with him, but then I am bitter and have no patience with losers!
2006-10-10 09:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you've gotta confront him, don't leave this question lingering in your mind, if theres something you need to ask him, just ask him!! Just watch his cheeks turn slowly into a gorgeous colour of red as you tell him you know his little secret =)
Did he really think that he would get away with this? What a dafty... what you need to find out is "why is he sneaking around phoning sex lines?" theres obviously something you need to find out here. No wander your sex life has gone down the drain, i don't blame you!
You both need serious words to what you should do, maybe theres something your not giving him, thats why hes calling these sex lines? i dunno, but whatever it is girl, just get it sorted before this becomes an addiction, maybe it already is one.... who knows?
take care
2006-10-10 08:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the money off him for the phone calls. Confront him, see what he says, maybe join him to re-establish a sexual regime as the spice may be exactly what you both need? either of those or for a third option, hire or buy some porn, this may give you both a thrill in the required way.
2006-10-10 08:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by the_rock_7378 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no worse than him going to a strip club or looking at a porno... Why care... So what if he likes to call phone sex operators... HES NOT CHEATING... I dont understand why women consider these acts to be cheating, but I believe it has to do with personal issues rather than relationship problems. If its affecting your sex life... Could it possibly be that you are LETTING it affect your sex life. As in, You dont initiate it as much as you use to. If this kind of behavior truly bothers you, then say something about it to him, if he refuses to change, and you cant be accepting of this, then leave him- But you cant expect to change him. Good luck to you.
2006-10-10 07:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my ex had a thing for porn and our sex life too went down the hill fast even if I would through my self on him hed pass me up for porn. Know man in their right mind would do that, but non the less bring it to his attention ask him why he is doing that over you and if it dosent stop drop him.
2006-10-10 07:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems he is in trouble
How many times has he tried the number? If only one or two calls, then talk to him about it and you should forgive him. If is alot then you can either wait for the next month bills or talk to him imediately
2006-10-10 08:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ramesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him pay for the friggin bill.!! Those things are expensive. Try to initiate sex and see what happens. Then take it from there. Good luck!
2006-10-10 07:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it ask him if instead of calling those high dollar 900 numbers can he call you and have phone sex instead this might just be the spice you marriage bed needs.
2006-10-10 07:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Carl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋