My daughter turned18 and she is due in a week. She's young and not mature enough for a baby but we are all here to help her. The past several months have been just great - she has been pleasant and fun to be around. Her usual demeanor before pregnancy is a short fuse accompanied by a flippant retort. If you say something nice, she will tear you to shreds. But since she has been pregnant, she has been an ANGEL. I know she is uncomfortable and in some pain, tired, can't get comfortable, wants the baby out, etc. but she is absolutely hateful to me. I am her only parent and she has a sister that is 8 years older who is a great help. I know she has a lot of fears, we talk about it a lot. But I think if she had a gun she'd use it on me (note the sarcasm - sort of).
I should not take it personally and I need to get over it, but other people make a point of telling me how rude she is. If I'm nice, it makes her mad, if I'm more quiet, it makes her mad. I'm in a "Catch 22".
2006-10-10 07:47:20 · 6 answers · asked by celticlass8888 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
lol, sit down and tell her how you feel...dont Preach or Scold or Knagg..just talk to her and tell her hey..ya know your really hurting my feelings do you realize your doing it...or are you doing it on purpose..and dont say she is too immature to have a baby..I am 18 and pregnant and not immature...
2006-10-10 08:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some grace. Help her to reconize when she's tired and hormonal, so she will be able to realize she's losing control.
Help her find ways to relax.
You know its not personal, and she's just hormonal. It will be over here in a couple weeks and she'll be herself.
She's old enough and mature enough to have a baby if she decides to be. Any first time mom is still a child on many levels, because it takes having a child to make you grow up. You know that.
She'll come around. Until then, just keep on supporting her, and help her get through these hormonal times.
Youre a great mom and doing a great job. Who cares what other people say to you. Tell them you're fully aware of her behavior and that you, unlike them, know its nothing personal. its hormones.
2006-10-10 07:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being blunt and tell her to stop being such a be-otch! Using pregnancy as an excuse to be rude is just wrong. She is indeed immature, and you are just encouraging her attitude that SHE is better than YOU by letting her away with it. Stand up for yourself, and put her in her place. And if you are smart, you will take that baby away from her before she kills it in a fit of rage.
2006-10-10 07:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people tell you how rude she is then just say "Well wouldn't you be if you were that big and tired of being pregnant?" Just ignore her rudeness and short temper. It's nothing against you or anyone else. She's just fed up with pregancy and once the baby is born she'll be much better. Congrats on your new grandchild :-)
2006-10-10 07:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since she was a bit of a brat to begin with, you should probably be used to her ATTITUDE. Be a duck and liet it roll off your back. You dont need to coddle her just because she is a little young, besides throw a little attitude back at her maybe she'll start thinking about standing on her own two feet. My mom did, I couldnt stand her, or us each other at all. It just prompted me to want to get out of there and take care of my baby!
2006-10-10 07:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like a double bind.
2006-10-10 07:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋