my girlfriend had me move back home from Florida(1500 miles) to "work things out". so far, we have fought like cats and dogs for the 2 weeks I have been here,I haven't found work yet, I live at her house (which she didn't want) I lost my car in Kentucky, ran out of money (she lives on disability) quit smoking(GODDAMN I NEED ONE!) and generally regret doing this in the first place. I'll admit, she does treat me good when we don't fight & the sex (nunuvyerbizness). do I stay and hope things get better? (she wants me in my own place soon) if i do leave, it won't be till spring so i would end up being here around her anyway (very small town).what would you do???
2006-10-10 07:37:55 · 17 answers · asked by alterego4maddawg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First thing you do is get a job and a place to stay. Living off her disability is pretty low. What did you expect? That she would want you living off her? Thats not working things out, thats mooching.
Is that why you split up in the first place?
2006-10-10 07:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first question says a lot about you - it sound as if you are blaming all of these problems on your "bad" girlfriend. How about taking some responsibility for yourself? If you and your girlfriend made these decisions together and then she renigged on her end of the deal, then yes, perhaps she might be a "bad girlfriend". However, it seems like not everything was thought out and well planned before you decided to up and move to Florida. Can you honestly blame your so-called "bad" girlfriend for your own bad decisions?
To answer the question about what would I do? First I would make getting a job, and a place of my own, and a vehicle my top priorities. They should be your top priorities right now too.
I certainly hope that you aren't depending on her right now, although that is what it sounds like. When someone is put in a position to financially take care of someone when they weren't planning on it, that can create a lot of stress. So the combination of her being stressed for a situation that she wasn't counting on and then you being resentful for moving there when you didn't want to - that's an argument waiting to happen. And although you say it's none of our business, you did state that the sex is....(good?). Let me guess - it's great right after you've gotten into an argument and are trying to make up? That's a classic sign of an abusive relationship (physically, verbally and/or emotionally). It's a cycle (argument, make up, argument, make up) and the sex is wonderful because it's part of the "honeymoon" phase of making up.
In my opinion it sounds like you and your girlfriend each need a little more space and a lot of prioritizing.
2006-10-10 07:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by FeistyLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave when I can. You shouldn't have left in the first place and then for you to live there and things aren't working out, you needed to have been out of there yesterday. It's clear that if you two are fighting like cats and dogs, someone needs to go. If she's putting a rush on you leaving , you should go now. It's only going to get worse. She should appreciate the fact that you came to try and work out your problems. It's obvious she doesn't so I would look at it as, it wasn't meant for you two to work it out.
Good luck
2006-10-10 07:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a friend you could stay with until you found a place of your own. Maybe that would help with the fighting at least you would some quiet time to think about if she is the right one for you.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-10 07:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 03:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she want you to move back to be with her if she wants you under a different roof and if she wants to fight all the time?You were living separately until she talked you in to uprooting. Was she worth it? Take into consideration your previous situation before you answer.
2006-10-10 07:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make the best out of your situation. Sounds like she cares about you but she wants you to be able to stand on your own two feet. Good luck.
2006-10-10 07:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bounce as soon as i can, she sounds like she is playing games or she wants to start fresh with you in your place and her in hers. did she tell you to come back to live with her or did you come out of your own. things sounds strange hurry and move and seen where it goes from there
2006-10-10 07:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want you in her house, it will NEVER work out. You need to leave her and move on with your life.
2006-10-10 07:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and see how it works out..she only wants the best for you
2006-10-10 07:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋