2006-10-10 07:36:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it would help to know what your feeling on the issue are. Are you upset that he's watching it? If so, is it because he's doing it behind your back, or does it offend you.
If you are interested in having it be a couple activity, be honest and tell him. Say, "I found this...and I like it too" Find a way to make it something you can enjoy together.
If it's something that offends or hurts you, TELL him. Do not cover it up and lie to yourself, it will only lead to hurt and distrust. He may be looking at it because he doesn't feel he can be open with you about his desires, so an open dialouge is important. Don't go screaming he's a pervert, find out why he does it and why he feels the need to be secretive.
Some people like pornography, others do not. It all depends upon your preferences and personal beliefs. In a marriage, I think it's something that is very important to discuss whether you're for or against.
2006-10-10 07:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sativa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in this same situation now and I know it is not pretty.You NEED to confront him about it for YOU and your peace of mind. Or it will eat away at your heart. I caught my husband back in july and it has now torn our marriage apart, not the porn, but the lies about it. You have to talk to him and it is hard to bring it up, but you can. Then go from there on why and how he could hide it from you. Marriage is based on communication and honesty, you deserve both.
2006-10-10 08:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I bought porn for my ex-husband I don't see the problem watch it with him try some new things just don't get wild because once you do something crazy hes going to chasing you around for it all the time. plus look at this way when you don't want to bothered tell him watch a movie and take care of himself
2006-10-10 07:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say thats a mans world one where we should mind our own buisness. not meaning that in any rude way its just true. all men do it old young and even the oldest of men. Men are amazed with a womans beauty especially if they are out of a porn magazine. It doesnt mean anything other then that in most cases its just the way they are. I say show some of your interest in it with him im telling that is a true hard on he will love it. Dont confront him, dont yell at him and definetley dont throw it away. It could be worse you know. if you were to watch one youd be amazed at how it can make you feel, its just stepping out of the box nothing bad i promise.
2006-10-10 07:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be open about it. I don't think porn is a bad thing. Does it bother you that he is looking at it? Why dont you watch it together, spice things up. A LARGE percentage of men look at porn, it is male nature. Dont be ashamed of it. Sexuality is natural, as long as it isn't freaky porn, wheres the problem?? If it REALLY bothers you and you cant live with him doing it, maybe just talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel.
2006-10-10 07:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand what the big deal is with this. So what he watching Porn. Have you ever thought about watching it with him? Maybe it can be something that can heat up your marriage. Don't make this into something it's not, so he doesn't have to hide it from you. He might just learn a thing or two!!!! LOL
2006-10-10 07:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by nycgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband does it all the time and when I ask him he's like ahhh I don't know and starts yelling at me. Porn is OK. It is the sites that offer dating that is scary. My husband went out with one. So if it bothers you let him know and if he respects that maybe he cut back on it or not do it at all.
2006-10-10 10:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by Just Because 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out right. Ask him why the hell he's looking at porn. Pull up the history on the computer and show him you know its there.
Tell him its unacceptable. On every level. Its not right.
Not right at all. He has you, he dosent need to fantasize about other women.
Ick. I would kick my husband back to his mothers house and tell her what he did.
Thats the best way to handle it. Tell his mother.
2006-10-10 07:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I am one of the wives that allow my husband to watch it. I know a lot of women find it disgusting and think it degrades women though. I also know that watching it with them is such a turn on for them as well as the women (as long as you can stop laughing at some of the scenes). I would simply tell him you found it and see where it goes from there. Don't think he is watching it because he isn't attracted to you though, it's natural for a man to want to see that stuff. Try watching it with him, you might find it does as much for you as it does him and you might find some new ideas to try.
2006-10-10 07:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am going through that right now, my wife thinks i am cheating on her with internet porn stars and the worst part is that I really am not all I can say is talk to him and if he say he isn't then I would sit down with him and try to figure it out cause these dam sites I don't know what or how they get our email but it is really scarey
2006-10-10 07:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by fedorff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋