He is always asking stupid questions like how many people I sleep with, what we did do and did not do and then he gets mad, I mean MAD!!! I don't get it I did all those things when I was not with him,did not live in the same town and had no idea that he even existed. I was a kid once and did stupid things that I wish I had not done, but can't do anything about it now. I'm getting tried of this jealousy crape, we've been married 8 yrs. and together for 10 and I have NEVER been unfaithful. I do think about being with someone,anyone who would treat me good and I knew would never punch me or slap me and blame it on a supposed anitey disorder. I love my kids and don't want them to have to go through a divorce and on top of that he told me he would kill me. Although I don't think he ment it but he flys of the handle sometimes,were it seems he can't even control himself. Not sure what to do, I have no help and I am a stay at home mom, I do babysit but it would only be enough for rent.
2006-10-10 07:31:32 · 14 answers · asked by ME 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had the same kind of marriage and I took a chance and got out. Now my two kids and i are happier than ever. It's hard at first to think that you can make it alone but it is possible. Now my kids don't have to see and hear the fighting and they don't ask for him at all. There are different kinds of help for single moms since you are a stay at home mom. Just ask around and you'll find several organizations that are willing to help. Good luck. Do it for the happiness of yourself and your kids.
2006-10-10 07:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by pulgita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other posts. I do want to add that perhaps he feels that he doesn't measure up to your past lovers so he wants to know every detail so that he can come up with something new and exciting and a "first" just for the two of you. I also agree you have to - no matter what - refuse to talk about it anymore otherwise it will never go away.
2006-10-10 14:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away now! Start searching for a job. There is help out there if you need daycare for your kids. Your kids will benefit better from a divorce rather than seeing you hurt by your husband. Do it for them! Good luck!
2006-10-10 14:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an insecure, abusive and obsessive person. There are more problems here than him simply being curious about your "past". He treats you badly, but only because you let him, I'm sorry to say.
2006-10-10 14:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and may be cheating on you. You need to make him stop hitting you immediately. It's not your fault, and the kids don't need to see this. They should see a divorce before they see him hit you as it breeds inside of them..... You deserve someone to treat you right and love you the way you need to be loved. Good luck, honey.
2006-10-10 14:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by daj11551 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have left this assh@le years ago. Sounds like he is an insecure, controlling, jealous jackass. Your kids will learn these behaviors and trates from him, so they are better off also. Make him pay child support... you can make it there are support groups out there to help you through this.
2006-10-10 14:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why the hell is he worried about it now? second, get a real job and get out! i did it, lots of women do it! those kids don't need to be raised in that mess! if he is threatening to kill you, he probably won't wait till you file for divorce to try it! there are all kinds of programs out there to help battered women and their families! do whatever it takes to get you and your kids to saftey! they will get over a divorce alot quicker than mental and physical abuse!
2006-10-10 14:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he's self concious about his... That's why. I'd be willing to bet he's like that because he's cheating or has something to hide. I honestly think this guy is bad news and you should get out quick. Protect yourself and your kids before it gets worse. You deserve better.
2006-10-10 14:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by dww32720 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is getting worse. For your safety and the safety of your children, get away. Go to your family, go to your church, go to a shelter but go. The longer you wait the worse it will be. He needs help. Maybe if you leave, he will realize it and get the help he needs.
2006-10-10 14:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Steve M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he married you or your past. refuse to even talk about it anymore! tell him he is just trying to start a fight and you are not in the mood for it! refuse from now on an don't give into his silliness anymore....no matter what your past may be. as long as you are clean and don't offer him a chance to become HIV...leave it in the past!
2006-10-10 14:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋