Me and my Girlfriend of a year and 1/2 have been doing nothing but fighting lately. We both have done things to hurt our relationship and we just keep bringing them up. We both love each other very much and we really want to fix things. How can we get over these things? what is the best way to get out of this circle of fights? We will be getting along and haveing a perfect day but then something is said or something reminds us of the things that have been said or done and WW3 brakes out.
Thanks so much for any advice
2006-10-10 07:19:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-10 07:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like a broken relationship can not be fixed so the best thing to do is try hard 2 not bring up the bad things that has happened in yall relationship and try 2 make it better its okay a good relationship always have problems its normal!
2006-10-10 07:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it can be fixed ..but will it be the same NO.. there will always be scars that will be there . All you can do is work together and try your best, that is more than most do.. now days people only want what they want and they are always looking for the easy way out when they don't get it . well not all but about 95% . people are lazy when it come to working on a relationship if it not going the way they want. many people don't believe in give and take..it all take.
2016-03-18 07:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I did this for the first year of our marriage. At some point, I decided not to bring the past up no matter what, and I didn't. I still don't. That doesn't mean I don't have opinions about it or that I have forgotten everything, it just means that I made the choice to not argue about it anymore. It's not an easy thing to do, but someone has to start the healing or you will just rip each other apart. Make a pact with yourself to figure out the issue (i.e. insecurity) and to not attack each other but to work on the issue.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-10 07:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We both have done things to hurt our relationship and we just keep bringing them up"
You've already diagnosed a huge relationship killer. Now take responisbility for yourselve and stop doing it. When she does it don't be defensive, sincerly apologize and keep the relationship and the hapiness you want above the feeling of being right. You've taught each other to act this way. Now be the person who teaches who to act in a more positive manner. It takes alot of work, patience and love to repair a broken relationship. Pick up some books on relationships, they do help. Read for your own though, don't push it on her; ppl hate that ****, even if your enlightened, until her perception of you changes.... you have to lead with your best foot, and let your actions be the words.
2006-10-10 08:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever talked to her about the problem? What if she is doing it on purpose just to spite you or get out of the relationship? Maybe it is time to take a brake because it is really unhealthy to fight so much. If you haven't talked to her about it yet, who know? Maybe you two will realize that you can get through anything. A relationship is all about communication and trust. If you don't have that then you don't have anything!!
2006-10-10 07:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you two need to sit down and have a real heart to heart about what is really bothering the both of you.
communication is the foundation of a good relationship. if you dont have that, you dont have anything.
maybe a counselor could help you out. you know, someone that listens to both sides and then makes a call.
if you cant get along, the best thing to do is be apart but since neither of you want that, then things have to be worked out. talk everything out. lay it on the table and see what you have to work with.
2006-10-10 07:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit each other down and find out how much you still want to be together and if so you both have to be MATURE enough to leave the past exactly where it is. Now is a good time for pretending like you just met and do all the things you would if you were trying to win each others heart for the first time.GOOD LUCK
2006-10-10 09:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by sex-c-one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-11 02:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 2 should see a counselor together and then seperately to see if you can get past this. If not then it is time to cut the strings and start anew. Good luck
2006-10-10 07:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by T K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 11:29:11 · answer #11 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋