my boyfriend and i both work but i get off work 2hrs earlier and rush home to cook. all i ask him to do is wash the dishes and he moans until we end up having an argument or i do it. i'm fed up. we agrue all the time. we might be good for a week or two but then we have a blow up arguement about nothing but i love him so much i feel like i cant leave him because he needs me i also feel like his family disapprove of me even though they would never say so because i didnt work for a while in our relationship and he had to support me. am i being ungrateful?. im torn between my love for him and my need to get away.What should i do?
2006-10-10 07:12:11 · 10 answers · asked by diamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get away now. You aren't ready & neither is he.... Good luck, honey.
2006-10-10 07:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is taking advantage of you. I am married and work full time, my wife is a stay at home mom and I do all I can to help her around the house. Some days I come home and cook dinner, and do the dishes and kitchen clean up myself as her health has not been good for the last few years. In a relationship it is not about giving 50/50 but about being considerate of the other person. I love my wife with all my soul and want do all I can to show it, if that means doing the dishes then your man should have no problem with that. Put your foot down.
2006-10-10 14:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not being ungrateful why should you suddenly have to do everything because he helped you out. That isn't right. When you help a loved one you should expect nothing in return. You cook he does the dishes sounds like a fair trade to me. If it bothers you that much you should stop cooking.
2006-10-10 14:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT a doormat. It seems like your boyfriend is a bit selfish. Don't worry about what his family has to think about you, and you should give a rat's tail about whether or need he needs you. He takes advantage of you. Leave him, sooner rather than later, and find a MAN who will think that he's the luckiest guy in the world to have you. Good luck.
2006-10-10 14:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very typical of many couple. Try to work out a schedule of when washing the dishes.
2006-10-10 14:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone because they need you is no reason to stay. In fact it may be just the reason you should go. Neediness is the basis for a very unhealthy relationship.
2006-10-10 14:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his house too, there's nothing wrong with having him share in the upkeep. My b/f has chores even though he works full time and I work part time. We've been together 11 years.
2006-10-10 14:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away Run like hell.
2006-10-10 14:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
miss may i say that you are caught in knee high gravey and cant move ???????
2006-10-10 14:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by jamietogood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do. Just do it.
2006-10-10 14:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by sspinnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋