My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years. Well here is the problem he shows very little interest in me. He said it isn't someone else that he loves me, but what is the deal then I know it isn't he age he is only 27 years old. Can anyone help me on this problem before it gets to bad?
2006-10-10 07:08:07 · 22 answers · asked by Debbie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He works shift work and he a porn channel on our TV. He is home alone sometimes during the day when I am at work.
2006-10-10 08:26:54 · update #1
He works shift work and he has a porn channel on the TV that he called and had added without me knowing. He is also home alone too ( While I am at work).
2006-10-10 08:30:47 · update #2
If you have kids I would say buy a trailer in a seasonal park within a hours drive away. Every weekend becomes a holiday this has spiced up our marriage we have made friends and our kids have also. It gets us out of the city. Every Friday the whole family is smiling. I love the camp fires and games we play. It's alot like a cottage without the huge expense. If you do not have kids this would be great also it's adventure and theres neat shops close by and things you would not do from home. This will bring you closer.
2006-10-10 08:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by afall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you making time for yourselves as a couple? Lives can get very busy with work responsibilities, housework, bill paying, so it is easy sometimes not to put effort into maintaining the most important thing...your relationship.
Start by arranging a special date. Plan the event...could be as simple as a walk and out for a cup of coffee, going out to dinner or a concert or a drive in the country. Take time to talk and to listen. Tell him that it is important that you feel loved and desired and that you love and desire him. If time together doesnt put back the spark; you might want to try some counselling. Could it be that your husband is under stress or is ill?
2006-10-10 07:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when my husband shows no affection I try to do something special for him. Like take him to see a movie, or rent a movie from home, make his favorite foods, buy him a card that tells him how much you love and apperciate him and his favorite candy or dessert and get something cute to wear for after dinner. Also what he could be feeling is that you don't apperciate the things that he does do for you. I know you do, but even guys get insurce on how you feel for them. My husband told me that after his last girl friend he felt that no one would apperciate the nice things he could or would do for the person. I told him that I love that type of stuff and if he did do something sweet I would let him know. So now I make sure he knows how much I love him. I also tell him even if he doesn't do something for me because I do love and cherish him. Try that and see if that works!
2006-10-10 07:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just the way relationships go after a few years...that 1st lot of lust, unable to keep your hands off each other kind thing does go down the drain after a while unfortunately.
You could try having a bath together, planning nice romantic weekend away, buying some lingerie (or some eadible underwear).
You just get into a habit of taking each other for granted and you tend to "forget" each others needs...just take some time out with each other to "remember" the good old times.
2006-10-10 07:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets start with appearance did you change ? where you once this sexy looking hottie to a frumpy housewife.many of us women think once we have got the man , that the challenge of keeping him is over . well let me tell you that's when the real show begins you have to stay sexy even in a tee shirt and jeans put on sexy under wear and then let him take a peak , shoot all day he will be thinking about your under wear and how know one knows how sexy you are but him, tight tees, smell good all the time walk around in a house dress then let him see that you have nothing underneath make a game out of it bend over and let him see you have nothing on. during cooking dinner on the weekends when he's home ask him to help and then tease him with your breast do a little strip tease in the kitchen you no pull up your breast show some butt let him taste some of you in the closet ladies what I'm trying to say is use your imagination when it comes to keeping your man hot put sexy post its in his pants pockets jackets, ladies your appearance should always be ready for what ever just because where married does not mean we have to look and act frumpy we should always smell good look good and ready for anything lol
2006-10-10 07:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an adult store. Buy a few things you think he would like and suprise him. Whoever said the way to a man's heart was through his stomach was right but I found an alternate route if you go a little further south. This route works just as well if not better! The things you buy should really get him interested!
2006-10-10 07:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, i would suggest maybe trying some new sexual things. I would try some toys, movies, outfits, and maybe new positions. I would also ask him how he wants to engage ....what position and how etc. This way you know he is getting what he wants. If this doesn't work then i would be concerned about your marriage. Sometimes a marriage can have up's and down's in the "sexual dept" but if it lasts too long then i would say he DOES have interest in someone else.
good luck
2006-10-10 07:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may be a little much for you but try being a little bit of a sl*t for him. not just in the bedroom. get some thin tops and wear them with out a bra. Do this even when you go out with him places so other guys look at you. get some very sexy things to wear at home, get some "toys" to use while he watches you and for him to use on you. If you have a girl friend that he thinks is attractive ask her to help. You and her haveing sex in front of him or have her join you and him let him enjoy her don't be jealous it will make your time with him that much better. let him take you analy be adventuous.....
2006-10-10 07:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by carrie a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 8 years. When that started to happen a few years ago, I discovered he was looking at porn on the internet. Check his internet usage, temp internet files, etc. Now that I know about it, we communicate about our relationship more. Not just his "internet usage" but everything. I don't feel there is anything that we cannot talk about.
2006-10-10 07:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by ltlbabie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you got married way too young. If he's only 27, jezz, at 18 you should never get married. Crap, at 27, that's when you get married, not 18. I'm guessing he's bored. Go by some sexy lingerie, some leather/latex clothing, maybe some bondage items, come on spice it up for him.
2006-10-10 07:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by j j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋