My husband and I are divorcing. We are still in love, but we had some trust issues and he decided this was the only thing to make him happy. He is still paying my bills and taking care of me, but only as a friend. I love him and want him so bad. It is impossible for me to immagine my life without him. He is staying with his realitives and I am at our house. I am crying all day. This wasn't the life I had planned. I think it will be a long time before we can even concider getting back to gether, if it is at all possible. I used to have a perfect marriage. Now I am completly alone. We have no children and were married 2 years. I'd appreciate any advice.
2006-10-10 07:01:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I need help getting over him. he broke my trust by talking to other women he met online on the phone when i was sleping and even making plans to meet one of them. He said they were just friends, but I don't beleive him.
2006-10-10 07:11:26 · update #1
Time is the only answer to heal your heart. I understand what you are feeling at the moment, but after two years it was not meant to be. You negelected to give your ages. I would consider you both are in your twenties. Too young this early two be already seperated. My advice, let it be and chalk it up as experience. You cannot make someone want to be with you. Again, time is the only answer, you will see and remeber I told you this. I am so sorry for your hurt. I wish could make it go away for you. In time.
PS no one can compete with fantasy women online. If he is going that route let him go.
2006-10-10 07:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Keisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is never impossible to get back, it just takes a very long time.
If you want to try and give your relationship another go and your husband is willing then go for it but take little steps, don't rush into anything...he needs to earn your trust again.
My other half has done the phone thing via texts and sent naked pics but I pulled him about it and he wasn't too pleased but he couldn't answer my questions on how he would of felt if I had of done any of that....that happened 2 years ago I still haven't got 100% trust back for him but it's getting there slowly but surely.
Did your hubby ever give you any reason to think he would do this before you got married?, do you honestly think he would of gone through with meeting any of these women?
If you have decided that you dont want to try again, the first thing you need to do is get yourself a job so that you can take over paying your own way...depending on him to pay your bills will not get this guy out of your life, so it will be harder for you to move on and meet other people.
Sell your house and split the difference, you will need to get this guy out of your hair for you to be able to get on with your life.
2006-10-10 07:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all; I am so sorry for your pain. I can only imagine what you might be going through. You wanted to have a life long relationship with your husband and now your world appears to be shattered.
It sounds as if he cares for you still and wants to remain friends. This is pretty special and if this is the way it ends, it sure could be worse.
You mention "trust" issues but you dont explain whether you violated the trust or he did. Seems to me that you could benefit from counselling, even if you go alone, so that you can have some professional help to guide you through this very difficult time for you.
Take care of yourself and good luck.
2006-10-10 07:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When trust has been broken, it is almost impossible to get it back. I have been in your shoes.
Time is the only thing that will heal a broken heart. I wish I could tell you differently.
You will meet someone else, and wonder why you put up with your ex at all, but you have to get your self-esteem back and learn to live on your own. This helps know who is best for you.
Good luck. You will feel better.
2006-10-10 07:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by gg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you asking how to get him back or how to get over him? to get over him , you need to give the situation some space an time to heal. you can't do this with him paying your bills and hanging around. you need to be more independant an now do this for yourself. it is hard to make a man come back , when it is not what he wants to do. maybe that too will come , if you just let him be able to see what it is to miss you?
2006-10-10 07:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duct Tape
2006-10-10 07:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just give it time and if the trust issues are one your behalf then show him that you love him enough to go to counseling to get through those issues. If you really love each other things will work themselves out pray pray pray. Ask God to bind your hearts back together and to his. No job is to big for God...Give it to him.
2006-10-10 07:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry I can imagine how u feel,but if only you can give him an other chance,thas only if he want one,hopefully it may work for you otherwise beilieve on God & pray him to let u forget
2006-10-10 09:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk on down
2006-10-10 07:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by dale 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋