some people are not interested in being friends with other people??? (I have been talking to lots of people recently in my class, job, clubs, and wherever I can find people). and it seems that they only want acquantance. They ask me for help in class and I help them and I ask them for help, and they help me. and some of the people never open up after talking to the same people after 2 months. They never start the conversation. I usually have to but most of the conversations are really short though.
Why is that??? If it has to do with trust issues, how can I get a person to trust me if they never open up with their issues? How can I get a good true friend? I feel like just quitting on talking to new people since they never seem to be a very good true friend (either not that responsive like "hi, did you do your homework?", "no", then that's the end of the conversation and that person never start talking to me though. or acquantance (person asks me for help and i ask them for help)
2006-10-10 06:57:28 · 6 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
after i talk to them and if they decide they do not want to connect with me, why is that? what factors are there to make people to think like that? I just want to make a good friend.
for those who said "You try too hard", define that, If I do not try at all, it will be impossible for me to even make friends.
if you mean that I shouldn't try and let people come to me, i tried that but no people want to talk to me.
2006-10-10 06:57:58 · update #1
how do i try not too hard?
2006-10-10 07:00:20 · update #2
I have been polite and positive to make friends but still, it is not happening. What is wrong with me?
2006-10-10 07:02:29 · update #3
Well, its difficult to answer.
But , its a practical and serious question, I must confess.
Hope you will get your desired answer soon.
2006-10-10 07:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Saint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, relax! People pick up on nervous vibes and that makes them uneasy. Second, join some clubs or groups that suit your interests - most people that join these kinds of organizations do so to meet new people! Third, remember that friendships develop over time, not over night (same as trust). When you first meet people, don't expect that within a few weeks you'll know every detail of their lives - it doesn't always happen that way and it isn't unnatural either. I really think that these days people are looking for a few really close friends instead of lots and lots of casual friends, and perhaps you're experience this first-hand. But don't worry - you sound like a very nice person! Just keep being friendly and approachable. (Oh, here's a tip - when you ask someone a question as an ice-breaker, make it open-ended so they can't just answer yes or no to it.) Good luck!
2006-10-10 14:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jemma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are wastin too much time seeking how and how and trying too hard.
You were really nice to them, if they think u can be their good friends i am sure it would come naturally. Don't always blame yourself for not making good friends, coz they are many stuck ups out there who just like to make use of others. There are also some who just dont talk that much which happen to be their nature.
Trust is something that gets build, be as nice as you are right now try not to push too hard, and be happy no matter what sort of reaction you get from others. Eventually when they know how positive you are, regardless of what kind of people they are, you would make a great impression and friends would be there for you.
Just remember that u are a great person and continue being one.
2006-10-10 14:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anne H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one, do you have a pleasant face? do you demand things or come off in a demanding manner? are you not dressed in today's wear ( even though it should not matter if you are a teen dress codes a factor) ? I'm asking question because you did not describe how you approach people, maybe you need to look at yourself and actual ask people what is it about you that is not connecting you with them. but I'm sure the answers lies with you do some soul searching and find out what it is or what you can do to be more people friendly lol
2006-10-10 14:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your delima.. best thing is just seriously be you ... don't worry about those who want to be acquantance...life is too short too worry about them..you will probably find true friends down the road... Relax!!!!! good luck You will be fine
2006-10-10 14:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Andi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something is wrong here - if you put yourself out there and are feeling like you are getting no repsonses..try chatrooms and stuff like that . People in chatrooms will get to know you better because they cannot automatically judge - once they chat and find out that you are an interesting person - your confidence will rise and the whole world will notice - problem solved
2006-10-10 14:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋