what should i do?

Question

I had lunch with one of the doctors that i work with and he dosent know that i am married. well i really like this guy and he likes me. and my husband and i are having problems. plus i mean hes a doctor and my husbands a delivary driver!! i mean i really love my hubby but things just arnt the same????!!!!!!! what should i do????

Answer 1

Go see a shrink. lol just kidding! Work things out with your hubby.

Answer 2

Not to be rude to you but why did you have to emphasize that your new interest is a Doctor and your husband's a delivery driver remember you chose your husband for a reason and just because the Doctor's showing interest doesn't mean he likes you enough to want a relationship he has money so he can pretty much see whom he wants and at anytime so maybe he's just infatuated with you for the time being,meaning that just because you and your husband the delivery driver are having problems it doesn't mean that the Doctor you met is the answer to those problems.When you are having problems with your spouse and then meet someone else or get attention from someone that you already know the grass always looks greener on the other side,if you want to pursue the Doctor you work with then Divorce your Husband simple as that,however with that being said how do you know that the doctor isn't in a relationship already or at least seeing someone or maybe dating around and enjoying his freedom because you are on the outside looking in and I think maybe he hasn't told you everything meaning that maybe he feels that some things are better left unsaid.Good luck with your situation.

Answer 3

BE REAL. Hun, I'm a nurse. You should KNOW that these doc's are a hot commodity. And they run through nurses like latex-free gloves!

You suffer from the "grass is greener on the other side" syndrome. Leave it alone. You are the flavor of the month, or the minute. You have a relationship with a man who loved you enough to marry you, and commit himself to you. Respect that.

If you wanted more than a 'delivery driver', you should have left him alone and let someone who would have appreciated all that he is, more than just what profession or job he has.

I'm not trying to nag, or scold......but having been a nurse for the last ten......and having had a mom who was a nurse for 36 years before she retired......the stories never change. The docs enjoy the 'perks' of working in a field that has a predominant female population. (As far as supportive staff).

Don't do it.

Answer 4

You need to stop right there. Ask yourself what you would want him to do in your situation (your hubby, not the Dr.). Chances are you wouldn't want him to cheat on you because it hurts! Don't cheat. You need to work on your relationship with your husband. Plus, you need to stop listening to everyone around you whose telling you what is acceptable as far as a job goes. Your husband being a delivery driver vs being a Dr. is not something you should be judging him about. That's highly unfair. Talk to your husband. Tell him you feel that you guys are getting too much distance in your relationship. Don't go out to lunch with other men unless you are in a group of friends! If talking to him doesn't work than you should really try marriage counseling. It works.

Answer 5

YOu could just be reading into the Doc being friendly as more then it is. Beyond that having problems is no reason to run from a relationship, it is every reason to concentrate on it. Our society is falling apart because of how people treat commitment. You should really work things out with your current. Beyond that there is a lot more to life then cash or whatever else you feel the Doc may have to offer.

Answer 6

OPTION A:
End your marriage, you know seperate divorce your hubby that you love.
Date the Doctor and find out he's interested in dating, but NOT marriage.

OPTION B:
Have an affair and your hubby finds out and divorces you. Then find out your Doctor is interested in dating NOT marriage.

OPTION C:
Work on your marriage and stop tempting yourself with the Doctor. That means no more time lunches with the Doctor.

Answer 7

You know it amazes how shallow people really are. If you loved your hubby so much there really would not be an issue. I say keep seeing the Dr let hubby find out he will toss you aside and when the Dr finds out he will kick you to the curb as well.

Answer 8

run the other way from the doc until things are settled permanently with hubby (divorce finalized). You are playing with fire and you will be burned and burn those you care for if you keep it up. Remember, the grass being greener on the other side of the fence is because it's over a septic tank....

Answer 9

I think you are just using excuses to go and have relations with this guy. If you think that losing your marriage is well worth it, then do it. Once the love of your life, now" a problematic delivery driver". I think you seriously need a priority check. I think you should level yourself to reality.

Answer 10

I think you should throw your uncommitted *** off a bridge. GEEZ, woman!

You "loved" him enough to marry him, and he was "just a delivery driver". Sorry baby but your husband deserves MORE than you and I hope he finds her.

Also, I hope your story sounds very familiar to someone who knows you and your husband. He deserves the truth, and I don't think it's going to come from your mouth.