Can you pinpoint a time in your life when something inside you changed?

Question

And since then you've never been the same? Not necessarily a negative thing or something very serious. Just interested to hear your thoughts on this matter.

Answer 1

A superb question! I have a couple of moments. Over the past decade, I have become quite a spiritual person and certain events have had quite an effect on me.

The first was going to University, and moving away from everything I had ever known. I was transplanted from the London suburbs, into an environment where I encountered people and subcultures I was very unfamiliar with.

At first, I was quite scared and intimidated by all of this. So much so that I began to feel some rather bizarre fears and visceralities. However, I met some genuine spiritual people who opened a new outlook on the world to me. I was told about creating my own destiny, accepting others, loving myself, embracing other cultures, and understanding the events in all of our lives etc.

Here, something inside me really changed. With this new knowledge and these new insights, I was able to embrace my new world and new way of life, and live much less fearfully. Over the years, I have gone from being quite narrow-minded and suburban, to being more cosmopolitan and open-minded about the world. I now have a much better understanding of why things happen, and what to do about them.

In saying this though, I am still a 'work in progress.' I am still learning new things over the passing days, weeks, months and years. The more I find out, the more I find things to find out.

Another time when something in me changed (or gradually evolved) was when I found a job at a bank managers' training college. I had spent a period of time unemployed and was at my wits end. I took this job as a means of getting away from a life of being patronised, and being on the dole.

What I discovered was a Plato's cave of humanity. In my workplace, I have met more people I hadn't previously experienced. When you are a student, most people are young and from similar backgrounds. In my job now I have met a whole cross section of British society, and people who provide very accurate reflections of the things I am feeling and thinking at the time. Through my experiences here, I have gained further fascinating insights, as well as having what I already knew, exemplified as my reality before me.

Another enormous benefit is that with this job has come new social circles and friendship groups. New social opportunites opening up, with people who are also subtly different to what I had become used to, or who represent a 'transcendency of friendship' to what I had become used to. With these new people and reflections, have come sustained improvements in my self-image, and the things I believed about myself, my personal style and my character. Improvements which stand me in good stead for future years.

I am excited to discover what I am next going to find out and experience.

Answer 2

November 1980, the first time I saw my husband, I didn't know a thing about him, not even his name but I knew I was in love with him and that we'd get married, I had never felt love before but I did that day and something really big inside me changed.
March 1999, the day my beautiful mom died, I thought part of my world had died and that I would never get over losing her, yes things have got easier but I still miss her like crazy.
January 2004, Told my so called friends and family exactly what I thought of the lot of them, they were users and never there for us, now they see us when its appropriate for us and not them, I have never been a tuff person with other people putting on me but that day I just snapped and had had enough and yes something big inside me changed that day to, it was called strength.

Answer 3

Regarding my job and life in London, I just remember thinking- Ive had enough, and I am getting out of this... which I did a few months later.

There wasnt an exact point, it built up over time- the feeling that I was wasting my time trying to make myself into something that had nothing to do with me, realising that Id prefer to be a bum than keep working in an office for a bunch of arseholes.

But I suppose that it it really set in when I started just taking time off sick, inventing imaginary colds. I realised that the office treated me essentially as a mahine, and had been dishonest in hiring me, promising me a future which it had no intention of providing.

So I would just take days off sick, spread out sufficeintly so that they didnt arouse to much suspicion.

Answer 4

Yes, on the birth of my third child, for some reason I thought that something was going to happen to my boy. I promised God that I was not going to fight with people anymore (arguments), that I was going to be conscious of what I said to others, that my whole demeanor would change. Since then I have kept my promise. My child was born premature, but he grew up to be a good boy, the only thing is that when I thought something would happen to my child it turned out that I was right. He is bipolar and has other mental illnesses. His is like a genius in one sense and in logic nothing is there. But I love that God gave me my son and changed me for the better.

Answer 5

I didnt want a serious relationship mcuh less marriage, but I can pinpoint the second I knew I was gonna marry this man... my friend (not even a good one) was having his hair cut by another friend. Well it ended up looking horrible, but there was something in the way he reacted that made me know I was going to marry him. 5 years later we are still going strong!

Answer 6

Sitting in my bedroom with the lights off about 9years ago, holding a blade to my wrist, crying uncontrollably because I thought it was the only way to stop the pain, then I thought of my mother, the happiest person Id ever meet, and who had died of cancer when I was ten, and I thought what would she think of the person Id become, she woulda given anything to be alive and I was about to throw that away. From that moment something clicked in me and Ive tried to live my life to make her proud, its not easy sometimes but....its getting easier.

Answer 7

A couple...

The day my father died. I was seven. *Everything* inside me changed for a while.

And the day I met the love of my life. She was sitting in a tree in Central Park, 17 years old. I was 18, and I wanted to get a closer look. I climbed the tree. Even as I climbed, I felt strongly like I was going to my future and opening an entirely new chapter in my life's book!

Answer 8

yes i can i can pin point the day i had my son ive never been the same i became a responsible person and for the first time in my life i put somebody else's needs befor my own and it was a change for the best

Answer 9

Wednesday 19th February 1997 (10.10am)

Answer 10

Yup, 2004. A lightbulb went off in my head and I saw the light and what a fool I'd been. I was in a violent relationship.