I'm 21 and I'v been married for almost 5 years,and i know my husband loves me. Ever since the birth of our son he has seemed very distant. He works a 9 to 5 job but here lately he's been "working late" where as before he was always home by 5:30. I just wondered if anyone h as any advice on weather he may be fooling around or not.
2006-10-10 06:13:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you got married at 16, was he interested in you then??
2006-10-10 06:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it’s very painful to have such doubts about your mate. There are a number of things you can do to find out.
If you have the money hire a private eye.
One sign maybe he doesn’t want to have sex with you as often as before. Try and get him to make love with you every night. He may want to take a shower at night after work, maybe first thing when he comes home. Or he may have a way to shower at work. A woman will leave a scent on him especially on his penis. If you get the chance to touch him there before he showers, maybe with slightly damp hands then smell your hands you’ll know that smell. Smell his clothe before you wash them.
Is it possible for you to show up at his work during the day or when he’s working late? You may be able to pick up an indication from your husband or co-workers. Women are good at that sort of thing. If he is messing around it’s likely to be someone he works with or connected with his job, but doesn’t have to be. He could be seeing a hooker.
If he drives to work check his mileage on a normal 9 to 5 day. Then compare it with days he works late.
Please remember he could be a perfectly good and true husband. In which case he would be hurt by your mistrust. You must be very delicate and don’t give away your suspicions. Give it time these thing usually come to light.
Show up at his work when he’s working late with some food you made for him, like a surprise from a good wife.
There are some cell phones that are track-able.
What would you do if you did find out he’s spending time with another women?
2006-10-10 07:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Roy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both got married way to young. Your husband could feel nervous around the baby. Give him time, he will come around. Or maybe he needs some me time. See if you can get a sitter and have some time for him. Dont jump to conclusions yet.
I think he just needs some one on one with you. He may feel a little jealous. There is nothing wrong with that. Just give him some attention and you will see a change in him. He is a young dad.
good luck
2006-10-10 06:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you giving him the attention that he needs? By this I mean is the house clean when he gets home, is supper ready for him as well, do you take care of listening to his every need, baby him, take care of him in bed room. If so, then it could be a possibility that he may be, but if not, then I wouldn't worry about it. He may feel that since he's got a baby that he has a responsibility to bring in more income into the house hold.
2006-10-10 08:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by christi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whe a man says he's working late then most of the time he is cheating, but that might not be the case. He could feel abit different now that a baby is here. He can't have you all to his self. Check on him at work when he's working late and find out for yourself.
2006-10-10 06:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men go through a period of strange behavior when a child is born. He may feel strange making love to you because you are a mother now and / or he may be overwhelmed by the fact he is a father.
You need to speak with him directly and ask what is bothering him. Seek family counseling if necessary.
Good luck.
2006-10-10 06:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you and your husband still intimate with each other? what time is he coming home now? Does he still show you any affection at all?? Does he pick fights with you over little things?? Give me a little bit more of things he used to do and aren't doing no. It could be that he is jealous of your son which does happen even when they are the natural father.
2006-10-10 06:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by sex-c-one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about it. All so do something to spruce up you marriage. Make a candle light dinner or make you bed room romantic, write a love note in his lunch box. Sometime when you have been married for so long you forget the little thing to make each other happy.
2006-10-10 06:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be, who knows. Sounds like you guys got married young, and he may very well be getting an early "7 year itch".
Tell him, if he's "working late" so much, he better be getting a raise soon.
2006-10-10 06:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he actually is working over. Just tell him outright what you are feeling and ask about it. Honesty is best policy, but you got to be honest as well. tell him how your feeling and maybe it is just the woman and new mommy thing but it is something you feel is important and if it is important to you then he should feel it is important to tell you whats going on. Good Luck
2006-10-10 06:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋