While my man and I had broken up (for four days) I found out that he had slept with his baby's mom. I called her on her phone. he feels that I crossed the line by calling her. His family doesn't want him with me because they feel he should be with his baby's mom. He claims he wants to be with me but now out of the blue he says that he needs to fix things out with his family and himself first since they are not speaking to him because of the drama I caused. I feel like I'm on pause right now. I feel like if he's trying to decide between me and her. She knows about me, Him and I even lived together. Things were so perfect but we have our trust issues. Should I move on or wait?
2006-10-10 06:08:36 · 38 answers · asked by special k 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are worth more than this! Move on! When someone really really wants to be with you nothing will stop them.
2006-10-10 06:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by imix3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You crossed the line when you called her. You were broken up when he slept with her. She is his baby's mom. You have no right to interfere with that, no matter what happened. He may not have to think about trust issues, but the fact that you went too far! Maybe you pushed your way right out of his life. And, that is a lot of unnecessary DRAMA created by one little girl. You went far enough to get his baby's mom mad at him, along with his own family. WOW, you must be proud that you have that much influence. My advice TO HIM would be to move on. You're too much trouble.
2006-10-10 06:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should already know what guys with baby mothers are nothing but drama drama drama. And it's never going to work out. They have a familly. She's always going to be around. And you don't his familly looking down on you. Just leave him. You'll be better off trust me. That's the begigning of an unhealthy relationship. If you guys lived together it would be another story. Just move on girl. It seems like he still cares for his baby's mother. Plus he cheated on you. H doesn't care about you obviously. I don't know why you should even have second doubt about being with him after that. That is unforgiving. But he's hanging on to you because he cares. Living with eachother doesn't mean anything. If you were paying the bills. He played you for a fool. He has no respect for you in doing that. It's like spitting in your face and your taking it like it's all good. He stayed with you probably to make his baby's mother jealous (you never know) and he succeded in doing that and ended back in her arms. I'm sure he loves you but he's not IN LOVE with you. just let him go. He's so not worth it.
2006-10-10 06:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move. It all depends weather or not he loves you . And by what you said he doesn't, he just slept with his ex. And you still with him you are nuts. If a man slept with who ever i would of left him for sure. Look you need someone with no comitment to another person only you . Think about what i've said do you want to get into all the chaos he already has with his family and his baby's mom. Think about it. You don't belong there. Move on in the long run if he wants you he will follow. Remember that.
2006-10-10 06:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you should do what you feel is right only the 2 of you know whats really going on and what you guys need. Just follow your heart. If you move on which in a way you should, don't move on so fast, I think he's doing this first of all for his child. I don't know what kind of drama you caused but just be there for him if you love him just let things happen who knows if he sees you really do care he might come back, it might be a little to late but he'll see what you went through. But I really think he's doing this for his child, for some reason they can pull a couple back together it's weird. Just hang in there girl go out and have fun do your thing and don't let it get to you, you have your own life.
2006-10-10 06:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ove on..it sounds like he was too anxious to sleep with another woman(4 days) after a break-up.
He might still be in love or have a connection with the baby's Mom...
I think he hasn't finished up his last relationship before he jumped in with you..
Unfortunately this happens alot and the rebouond person usually gets the dirty end of the stick,.
Move on, this sounds way to complicated to be fun ... He has too many issues. you said about the trust thing... Bingo , you hit the nail on the head...
You deserve better... find someone with both feet on the ground and a person who knows who he is and what he is looking for...
2006-10-10 06:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly if you don't trust him why are you still with him. Another thing baby mama drama try to Find someone without a child because you always know that he will be around for her and his excuse will be the child just move on.
Good Luck
2006-10-10 06:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm, sorry but you're obviously only telling half of the story. i've got a feeling that "your man" was someone else's to begin with. did you get "your man" while he had a knocked up girl?
and if he was going to kick his prego girlie to the curb for you, in a fit of lust, confusion, whatever, don't be surprised that if, after she has had his kiddo, he gets a different idea of what he'll be missing. the family pushing for that is just them wanting him to grow up and maybe face some responsibilities. sorry, but honey, you should've seen this coming a long ways away! once a cheater, always a cheater. don't act surprised by how little boys are. they don't grow up til they hit like 50! good luck to you and chose your man carefully next time to avoid these kind of soap opera dramas!
2006-10-10 06:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of there. If you broke up for 4 day and he did that it is do that worth is. Trust is the key to making a relationship work. If you don't have that than you have nothing. Sound like he wants to have you on the side and do what is convenient for him. It is time to move on and find someone that appreciates you for who you are.
2006-10-10 06:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lori K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You are going to get nothing but grief from his family if they feel so strongly about his baby's mama. He obviously has not severed all tied emotionally to her if he would go sleep with her within 4 days of you all being seperated. I'm about 75% sure she probably is just as confused about what happened between them as you are. I wouldn't trust him...he has too many ties to her...and what's going to stop him from jumping in the sack with her everyother instance that comes up between you?
2006-10-10 06:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by frustrated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋