Women: Married how long?
Any kids?
Are you bi or straight?
How do you feel about your partner viewing porn(mags,videos)?
What aboput going to a strip club?
Do you do these things with him and if yu do do you do it to "make sure..." or because your into it too?
2006-10-10 06:02:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Married for a bit over 5 years. We have three kids. I am straight. I tried looking at porn with husband . It wasn't good he just ignored me and went about business. He is into ginormous boobs and that's about it. He went twice to a strip club a month ago , got lap dances, and spent a total of $400. I was NOT happy about this.
I am not ok with porn and strip clubs because he chooses them over sex. I am a Freak and like to have sex a lot. I like to try new things and places. My husband doesn't so much. He is pretty prudish actually. I would rather have sex and focus wholly on one another than look at porn. I am imaginative and don't need porn to come up with freaky ideas.
I am in great shape, like to dress up in sexy outfits, and look pretty for my man. I feel that should be enough. But I guess it isn't.
2006-10-10 06:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women: Married how long? 2 years
Any kids? no
Are you bi or straight? Straight
How do you feel about your partner viewing porn(mags,videos)? As long as he's not going out having sex with other women, I'm fine with him looking
What aboput going to a strip club? No, not comfortable wit hthat.
Do you do these things with him and if yu do do you do it to "make sure..." or because your into it too? I don't really get into that with him, I'm not comfortable with pornography.
2006-10-10 06:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. 5 yrs (second marriage of 15 yrs. We watched occasionally also)
2. 2 kids 21 & 17
3. STRAIGHT
4. It's very exciting for both of us, but it's not ok to watch it with
anyone else (only with each other & alone)
5. No strip clubs!! Or swingers clubs, it's a private intimate thing between us only
6. WE definitely get into in together as a couple, it's just a mood
enhancer, we love each other and only each other (I am sure
of that)!
I am 45, he is 51. It is an occasional thing, 7 or 8 random times a year maybe.
I am jealous at other times about real people. But this is just a little fantasy, we don't know those people & they don't know us. I have asked him & he feels the same way.
2006-10-10 06:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women: Married how long? Yes, 12 years.
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Any kids? Yup, a few.
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Are you bi or straight? Bi.
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How do you feel about your partner viewing porn(mags,videos)?
When I was younger, I thought it was cool and sexy. I loved porn as a teen, and later did some sex work of my own.
I started to question things when my favorite porn site feature a girl who looked drunk and possibly underage. I realized, I know nothing about these people, and as a victim of abuse myself, I can't participate in someone else's abuse. My own experience with sex work also soured me. You are just meat to these men.
I married a man who used porn solo, was abusive about it (very critical of women's bodies including my own, constant nasty jokes about women, strong mysogny), and it basically trashed the relationship.
I now see prostitution in any form -- including and especially porn -- as incompatible with love. Love is too beautiful for all that.
My husband has given up porn, and expresses huge regrets. He is a changed person. But sadly, the damage to me has been to great, and I am gathering my strength to leave him. It's a mess, and he keeps threatening self harm.
If I date again, it will probably be with women. I don't want to go through all the lying and house-training with a straight guy again, so it seems like a sensible choice.
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What about going to a strip club? No. I see it this way. If I got naked and ground my bits into other guy's faces, my husband would lose it. He freaks out regularly with jealousy, and I'm not doing anything.
I understand the allure. For women, it's easy money. For men, it's the fantasy of hot naked women desiring you.
But, it ruins society. It takes something that should be fun and relational -- sex, which leads to love -- and turns it into a pure souless cash transaction. And married men/women doing this? Ick.
I'm much more positive about polyamory and naturism/nudism. These things still seem socially healthy, because they involve people in a way that isn't devoid of emotion.
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Do you do these things with him and if you do do you do it to "make sure..." or because your into it too?
When I was still into porn, then I did it for both reasons. It became the only way I could be aroused, because he didn't arouse me with disconnected sex. Since normal relationship sex couldn't turn him on, I also liked the extra edge that porn gave him.
Now? I might consider giving softcore porn another try in a relationship, but I doubt it. I want the real stuff. Love baby, love!
2016-02-14 07:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
married for a few years, 2 kids, bi love it that he looks at mags and watches movies, if he went to strip clubs I would go with because I love looking at women.
2006-10-10 06:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married-8 yrs
No kids
Straight
I was fine with him viewing it until I busted him "chatting" to local women. Now-not so much.
I love going to the strip club. I am so curious about women who shake their *** for a living. It is hard work.
I used to watch videos with him and got into it, but since busting him a few years ago, he is not interested in watching videos with me.
2006-10-10 07:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by ltlbabie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for 12 years,2 kids,straight.
Doesn't bother me.
He could go if he liked but I could go see naked dancing men if I liked too.
I'm in to it too.I don't much care for the lesbien aspect of porn but I can watch the straight porn.Sex is a beautiful thing.People try to make it seem so dirty.
2006-10-10 06:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married less than a year, no kids, straight.
Porn ok, as long as he does it on his own time and it doesn't interfere with our daily activities. "Don't ask don't tell" policy.
I wouldn't be married to a man who frequents strip clubs... If once in a lifetime he wanted to go, I wouldn't need to know about it. ("Don't ask don't tell" again.)
I wouldn't do it with him, but I do look at porn by myself sometimes, just for fun.
2006-10-10 06:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
married 5 yrs no kids bi
we love porn mags and flix
yes strip clubs are great
we do them together mostly some times I go alone
it keeps are sex life way hot
2006-10-10 06:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by carrie a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married almost 5 years
1 newborn
Straight
Porn video's are OK, Mag's are boring
Strip club's? He can go but only with me
I do them with him, both because i enjoy it and because not many men are trustworthy
2006-10-10 06:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋