2006-10-10 05:58:30 · 24 answers · asked by Celi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
that is actually what happened to me, i told him that i was going to keep it, and i did, now we are both excited to be parents this april!!! i think that some men who are scared go thru this phase when they want nothing to do with this situation, then soon after they get over it and realize what a blessing a child is...dont get me wrong though some men that are pussys never realize that a child is a gift from above...but whatever you do, do what YOUR heart tells you to do, not what anyone else says!!
2006-10-10 06:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by miss me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby, start the paternity tests and child support proceedings, because he sure doesn't want to stick around and help raise it.
I Agree with who said this ^
I think abortion is wrong, but that's my personal opinion. Obviously since your asking this question, you have doubts. He has an opinion and that's fine. I would've told him to shove it.
Scenario #1-You decide to keep and raise it.
If I had been pregnant when I was younger I would have presented him with two choices. Either be in this child's life, or sign over your rights. Don't let him be a in-and-out dad like mine, it's worse then not having a dad.
Scenario#2-Adoption
Make sure he signs over his rights so he can't come back when the baby is all cute and grown and say "Oh I want the child now"
(You could give the baby to me)
Scenario#3-Abortion aka Murder
I would never have an abortion if I got pregnant with my boyfriend
BUT if you must, get all the information you can.
2006-10-10 06:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean to say, if he asked you to have an abortion?
Talk to his parents AND your parents. They probably feel differently than him.
It is your body. If you don't want an abortion then DO NOT let him talk you into it. It is a decision you can never take back. You will regret if you let him manipulate you. Your relationship is doomed if you have an abortion.
However, I know for a fact that the guilt may not come immediately. It can come flooding into your soul 20 years later after you already have children and value their precious lives.
2006-10-10 06:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body, your decision. Tell him that you want to have the baby(if you do) and that he can be as involved as much or as little as he likes, but that you cannot go through with termination. SAy, it may not be what we planed, but its happening, and I am sorry its not what you want, bu tthis is what I have decided. Give him some time, it may take a few months for him to come around. Invite him to the appts, U/S, if he says no, then he says no, but at least you are making hte effort to include him. Alot of guys get really freaked out a t first, and have a 'spaz out' period. I may be a tough few months, but he will come around and everything will work out as it should. Good luck and congrats on your new baby
2006-10-10 06:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do You want to have an abortion? I think that decision is totally up to the mother
2006-10-10 06:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by shorty_by_nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is really not caring for u! That is the reason he is asking for u to have an abortion!
2006-10-10 06:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by kiran123 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby, start the paternity tests and child support proceedings, because he sure doesn't want to stick around and help raise it. If you do want an abortion, make him pay half the fees.
2006-10-10 06:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he get pregnant? If he asked you to have an abortion I would tell him it's your decision. Ask him why.
2006-10-10 06:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy, thats a tough one....it could go either way...if you say NO, he could possibly dump you and not want anything else to do with you because he doesnt want to be tied down..
if you told him that you want the abortion and that he has no say in whats growing inside of you, he could turn that around on you and tell you that he is the father of your child and can have an opinion....
if it was me, i honestly would tell him to kiss it and walk away...
2006-10-10 06:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, DONT LISTEN TO HIM...I am not saying he is a bad guy..so dont get the wrong Idea...I know many men way up into their early 30's that get freaked out by pregnancy and say stupid things...first off....just grab his hand and place it on your belly...look into his eyes and tell him..we were mature enough to make this..now we need to be mature enough to handle it...Just talk with him..and try to make him understand that just because you cannot see or hold the baby right now..doesnt mean that it isnt there..and I have had an abortion when I was young and dumb..nobody judge everybody makes mistakes..some bigger than others..my bf asked me to..and I did....stupid yes ma'am and do I pay for it every day...yes ma'am I do...it happend 3 years ago..messed me up physically and emotionally...the doc's said I wouldnt ever have any babies because of the way those stupid pills you take messed me up inside and I had to go to the hospital because I was bleeding WAY to much....fortunately..God had other plans for me and gave me a second chance to have a baby...not that I deserve it...but I got my second chance..emotionally..I still have problems with it..lol and as I type this thinking about all that stuff...its kinda hard to muster but...anyhoo...dont do it...its your baby..take it from someone who made that horrible mistake...dont do it...we all have to experience things for ourselves..and learn from our own mistakes but trust me...this experience is one that is best learned from someone ELSES mistakes...good luck..and really think.
2006-10-10 06:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋