anyone know about custody cases or went thru one?
OK I HAVE BEEN CUSTODIAL PARENT FOR 10 1/2 YRS HE HAD PARTIAL HE ONLY WANTED TO BE WITH HIS KIDS ON HIS WEEKEND VISITS NEVER WANTED THEM MORE...HE WAS ONLY PAYING ME 50 AWEEK FOR FOUR BOYS FOR 10 YRS ,THE REASON WHY I ONLY RECIEVED 50 AWEEK WAS CAUSE HE TOLD ME HE WOULD GIVE UP HIS RIGHTS TO OUR BOYS I DIDNT WANT TO BE THE BLAME FOR THE KIDS NOT TO HAVE THERE FATHER SO I AGREED TO WHAT HE WANTED TO PAY .SO I WENT TO THE COURT HOUSE AND SUED FOR CUSTODY I GOT CUSTODIAL AND HE GOT PARTIAL HE AGREED TO EVERYTHING.IT WAS EVERY WEDNESDAY AND EVERYOTHER WEEKEND .WELL HE STUCK WITH IT FOR ABOUT A MONTH TOLD ME HE WAS DROPPING WEDNESDAYS CAUSE IT WAS TO MUCH.I GUESS IT WAS INTERFERING WITH HIS SINGLE LIFE I DIDNT CARE I HAD MORE TIME WITH MY SONS...I DID EVERYTHING DOC APPTS DENTIST ,ER RUNS WHEN THE BOYS GOT HURT I WOULD CALL HIM AND TELL HIM I WAS AT THE ER HE SAID WELL JUST CALL ME I AM SORRY BUT IF IT WAS ON THE OTHER END MY BUTT WOULD BE THERE .(RUNNING OUT OF ROOM WILL BE WRITING MORE)
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LIKE I DID EVERYTHING AND STILL DO I TOOK CARE OF ALL OUR SONS NEEDS CLOTHES ,FOOD,SHELTER,DOCS,TOOK CARE OF THEM WHEN THEY WERE SICK WENT WITH MY ONE SON TO ALL HIS SURGERIES ETC....HIS FATHER DIDNT GO CAUSE HE SAID HE COULDNT GET OFF WORK TO BE THERE BUT THEN THE WEEK AFTER HIS FATHER WENT WITH HIS GF AND HER SON TO GET HIS FOOT CHECK BUT COULDNT BE THERE FOR HIS SONS SURGERY ON HIS KNEE AND IT WAS BAD.THIS IS THE FATHER AND GF THAT ACCUSED MY SON OF FAKING HIS INJURY WHOM HAD TO HAVE MAJOR SURGERY,ALSO THERE FATHER GRAB OUR SON BY THE THROAT AND YES I REPORTED TO THE DOCTORS AND SO ON HOPING THEY WOULD REPORT IT CAUSE I AM AFRAID OF MY EX HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME WHILE WE WERE MARRIED I STILL FEARED HIM SO I WENT TO THE DOCS KNOWING THEY HAD TO REPORT IT .I DIDNT NEGLECT MY SON I HAD HIM CHECKED OUT AND TOLD THE DOC.JUST SO EVERYONE DOESNT THINK I AM A ROTTEN MOM I WANTED TO HURT HIM FOR HURTING MY SON .WELL MY TWO YOUNGER SONS STOPPED SEEING THERE FATHER SO HE STOPPED PAYING HIS CONTIN
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SO WHEN HE STOPPED PAYING HIS BIG 50 AWEEK WHICH DID NOT RAISE FOUR SONS I WENT TO THE COURT HOUSE AND SUED HIM FOR THE SUPPORT MY SONS NEEDED AND DESERVED WELL HE TURNED AROUND AND IS NOW TRYING TO SUE ME FOR CUSTODY WE WENT TO A COURT MEDIATOR WHO ORDER A HOME EVALUATION ...WE BOTH HAVE TO PAY 1050 WELL I PAID MY HALF ,HE DIDNT WE ARE GOING INFRONT OF A JUDGE THIS FRIDAY CAUSE HE IS BEING HELD IN CONTEMPT OF COURT,,,,THIS IS A MAN WHOM IS STILL MARRIED TO HIS SECOND WIFE WHOM HE LEFT ONE NITE WENT TO A BAR AND NEVER WENT HOME LEFT HER WITH THERE 2 YR OLD SON AND SHE WAS 5 MONTHS PREGNANT...NOW HE IS SHACKED UP WITH HIS GF AND HER 2 KIDS IN A 2 BEDROOM HOME SHE HAS A 5 YR OLD GIRL WHOM SLEEPS IN THE BEDROOM WITH HIM AND HIS GF AND THE GF'S SON HAS HIS OWN ROOM HE IS 10 AND MY BOYS ARE ON THE LIVING ROOM FLOOR ...THEN WHEN HE GETS HIS SECOND SET OF CHILDREN FROM HIS WIFE THEY SLEEP IN THE BEDROOM WITH MY EX AND HIS GF ALSO THEY ARE 3YR OLD AND 1.
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MY 18 YR OLD TOLD HIM THE WAY HE FELT NOW THEY DONT SPEAK MY 18 YR OLD TOLD HIM HE REMEMBERS EVERYTHING FROM WHAT HE DID TO ME AND MY 18 YR OLD TOLD HIM HE REMEMBERS WHEN HE GRABBED HIM BY THE THROAT CAUSE HE WANTED TO QUIT BASEBALL,AND HE TOLD HIM HE REM WHEN HE GRABBED ME AND ALMOST CHOKED ME TO DEATH INFRONT OF HIM HE SAID DAD IF I WOULDNT HAVE SCREAMED YOU WOULD HAVE KILLED HER ,WELL MY EX TURNED TO HIM AND SAID YOUR MOM BEAT ME MY SON LAUGHED AND SAID DAD YOUR 6 1 300 PDS.MOM IS 5 6 160 AND I WAS THERE I REMEMBER IT ALL ...THEN HE TOLD MY EX ALL HE CARED ABOUT WAS HIS NEW GF AND HER KIDS WELL HE TOLD HIM THATS RITE THEY ARE MY LIFE NOW I HAVE NO OTHER LIFE THEN THEM .WELL THEY HAVENT SPOKEN SINCE FATHERS DAY....THEN MY 14 YR OLD TOLD HIM OFF ABOUT HOW HE FELT TELLING HIS DAD HE DOESNT THINK ITS RIGHT FOR HIM TO TRY TO TAKE THEM FROM SOMEONE WHOM HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR THEM AND THE WOMEN WHO TOOK CARE OF US ON HER OWN FOR 10 YRS WITH NO HELP FROM YOU .
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I WAS SCARED WHEN MY 14 YR OLD TOLD HIM OFF I SAID MAYBE YOU SHOULDNT HAVE SAID THAT THEY MIGHT USE THAT AGAINST ME MY SON SAID MOM HOW CAN THEY I SAID HOW I FELT...SO I CALLED MY ATTORNEY SHE SAID YOU CAN NOT CONTROL WHAT COMES OUT OF YOUR 14 YR OLDS MOUTH...WELL HE DIDNT PAY HIS HALF OF THE HOME EVAL SO HE IS BEING HELD IN CONTEMPT OF COURT ,,I PAID MINE THAT SHOULD GO TO SHOW I LOVE MY KIDS AND WILL DO ANYTHING FOR THEM ....I WENT TO ALL THE SCHOOL MEETINGS AND WENT TO GET ALL MY BOYS HELP THAT THEY NEEDED ,,I HAVE TWO SONS WITH ADHD SO THEY STRUGGLE SO I GO TO THE SCHOOLS GET HELP OF COURSE HIS FAVORITE SAYING IS THEY DONT NEED ANY HELP THEY ARE JUST LAZY AND THEY NEED A FOOT IN THERE ***.
WELL ON XMAS VACATION LAST YR I ASKED FOR ANY KIND OF HOMEWORK THAT WILL HELP WITH THERE GRADES YOU KNOW MAKE UP WORK IT WAS STACKED FOR ALL MY SONS SO I ASKED AHOLE IF HE COULD HELP YEA HE HELPED I GOT A CALL FROM THE SCHOOL STATING THEY WOULDNT BE GETTING CREDIT I SAID WHY NOT
17 hours ago
CAUSE THE SCHOOL SAID THERE FATHER DID IT FOR THEM THE ONLY TIME IN 10 YRS I ASKED FOR HELP THAT IS WHAT I GOT...I AM SCARED I AM A GOOD MOM I DONT DRINK I DONT SMOKE I DO NOT GO OUT PARTYING UNLIKE HIM I STAY AT HOME WITH MY SONS THAT IS MY PLACE THAT IS WHERE I BELONG..THEY ARE MY LIFE....SO DO YOU THINK HE HAS ANY CHANCE...THANKS
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1 day ago
IM SORRY BUT I NEVER DID ANYTHING WRONG HE SUED ME CAUSE I SUED HIM FOR CHILD SUPPORT ..HE ONLY PAID ME 5O AWEEK FOR 10 YRS FOR FOUR BOYS THERE OLDER AND THEY NEED MORE ..I DID IT ON MY OWN FOR 10 1/2 YRS IF HE THINKS HIS BIG 50 AWEEK RAISED HIS SONS HE NEEDS TO GET A REALITY CHECK
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MY KIDS AGES ARE 16 14 13 SORRY IF I DIDNT ADD THAT,,,THANKS
2006-10-10 05:52:08 · 10 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well we were suppose to have a contempt hearing against him for not paying his half of the eval he never showed up neither did his attorney the judge rescheduled it for him to give him a second chance which i think is bs he started this cause i sued him now he wont pay the eval and didnt show up tellin the court he never got notice of the hearing come on his lawyer got it why wasnt he there.dont you think its kinda funny there is proof at the court house that his lawyer got the letter.
2006-10-10 05:56:31 · update #1
now the new date is oct 18th 130 pm lets see if he shows up
2006-10-10 05:58:16 · update #2
im sorry if some ppl think this question is getting old i would just like different views from ppl some ppl didnt get to see my post...i am sorry for the ones that keep ready my post...i am a mom worried about her kids someone that has taken care of them since 1996 then you have someone that didnt bother them all theses years that wants to take your kids from you cause you want child support cause they need more things as they get older ...im sorry if i got on anyone nerves with my posting.
2006-10-12 06:47:51 · update #3
I give you credit for working as hard as you have been to be there for your boys. I am in a similar situation and I rarely get support from my ex husband (whom was also abusive). So I want to tell you I will pray for you.
YOU will not LOSE custody of your children, YOU have raised them all these years. And at the ages of your children they can decide where they want to live. From the sounds of things they want mom.
GOOD LUCK hon. You will win!
2006-10-10 06:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid you're going to lose your sons, I wouldn't worry. Unless you are abusing them in any way, or they actually choose to go (even then it's still up to the courts in our state. They do what's in the best interest of the child, not what the child necessarily want), most courts won't take the kids away from their mother. He's just trying to scare you. He's irritated about having to possible pay more child support. Joint custody may be awarded, but if he doesn't live in the same school district, the court may not grant that either.
I would say if you haven't' already, to get an attorney. They can answer all of your question and have better answers than anybody on here. The lawyer will be familiar with the whole situation, and will be able to counsel you better.
2006-10-10 06:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With three kids still covered in age, you should be getting a lot more than $50 a week. It should be around 35% of his gross wages! He can't give up his parental rights and stop paying child support. The states don't allow that unless you have someone willing to adopt them and take over the responsibility for them. As far as him getting custody, good luck. There was abuse and neglect. I hope your are keeping a journal of all the times he cancels and the excuses he has, including when he doesn't come to the hospital. If your eighteen year old is still in school (high school), you are still owed child support for him too. My suggestion, sue for more child support and tell him where to go. All of your kids are old enough to say they don't want to go see him. If they don't want to, don't make them. If he isn't taking his visitation, get it cancelled.
2006-10-10 06:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at you children's ages they have a say in who they get to live with. If you don't feel that your children will be safe living with your ex then you need to mention that to the lawyers. The court will decide what is in the best interest of the children and so far it looks as if their best interest is staying with you. I doubt he'll get custody because all of the sudden he has decide to take an interest in his children's lives. Custody disputes are not that simple.
2006-10-10 06:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by princesschubbybutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he has a chance. Make sure that you have proof of everything that you are saying. It sounds like you are more fit to take care of your children then him. Also make sure your lawyer is doing everything to make sure you keep your children. Maybe you can get the wife that he's still married to, to be a character witness for your side. Hope everything turns out right. I will pray for you.
2006-10-10 06:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't have time to read all, but from the first 2 par. i think it would have been better to allow him to give up his rights as a father, don't u think sooner or later the boys may be ashamed of their father or even dislike him whether he had custody of them or not. And it may have been less stress for you, not have having to deal with him (ever). If you could, whether he is paying child support or not, leave him alone. let him rot, he does not love you or your children. maybe if he is out of your lives he can hurt you less, pray though, that's the main thing. good luck!
2006-10-10 06:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My heart is with you.
No, dear. The kids are too old to be told where to go. Those babies are yours.
The ex did likewise to me. Disappeared to start a new life, 10 yrs later calls to tell me to "think about what is best for the kids" because he wanted them to call. I gave the note to the oldest one, who threw it in the trash.
Oh well, you harvest what you sow...
2006-10-10 06:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no chance. At age 12 kids can choose which parent to live with. In in court, in any state.
2006-10-10 06:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Witchy Woman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just pray and keep on doing the right thing bc u will get what u deserve!!
2006-10-10 06:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO!!!!! THIS LONG DRAWN OUT QUESTION AGAIN...................................................................................................
2006-10-10 06:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋