I want to strip?

Question

I am a mother of two girls and I'm also a wife. I recently lost a lot of weight and I feel that I am almost at a point where I can actually be proud of my body and I want to do something that I have always thought of doing. I want to strip but I know that my husband will kill me. I stand 5'10" tall and at the present time, I weigh 195lb. But if you look at me you would never be able to guess how much I weigh. I carry my weight well and when I put on heels, I look even smaller. I just need to tone up a few places and I'll be good to go.
i was thinking about taking a trip out of town with my girlfriends and while I was there, I will try it out. I don't want to tell my husband and that's where you come in at. What do you think I should do? I don't plan on doing it on a regular basis, I have just always wanted to do it and I think that in a few more weeks, my body will be ready! Should I or shouldn't I strip for one weekend and never mention it to my husband?

luvlisteningtomusic, this is for you:
I am not some bored housewife, I am an a 27 year old mother of two, who also has a college degree and a full time job (I'm at work right now!) and I'm a wife and have been for almost 3 years and I've known my husband since I was 14 years old!
For everyone else:
It's not like I lost the weight and decided that I needed the attention. I have always been into dancing and I think that I have a few tricks up my sleeve and I have always been to big to actually do it. Maybe I was wrong for wanting to do it behind my husbands back, but this is something that I have always wanted to try. But I guess I do need to think about how I would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Maybe I won't strip at a club full of people. Maybe I could rent out a club for our anniversery in jan. and before we have a party, I could give him a private show!? How does that sound and are there any suggestions?

Answer 1

I think the guilt will get to you if you really love your husband. Think of it like this, would you want him to go and be a Chippendale? A bunch of strange women groping your husband and him enjoying it? And won't he wonder where e all of that money came from? Good for you if you are so comfortable with your new great body, but think about him. Let him be the one to enjoy the way you look. Go and get Carmen Electra Stripperobics and learn the moves and dance for him. He will go crazy! He will love you for it, and you would love yourself more for doing that instead of stripping for other men. Believe me, I kinda know where you are coming from. As good as I am at erotic dancing, I know I could make a killing at it, but I don't because I know how much it would hurt my husband, and I love him to much, and I save it all for him!

Answer 2

Don't do it. Secrets ALWAYS eventually get exposed. The saying I live by, is "what is done in the dark, will come to the light". This is really the truth.

I know exactly what you mean because it has always been a fantasy of mine too. BUT I just channelled it in a more productive way. What I did was go get the sexy stripper gear.......sent the kids off with the grandparents......set the room up.....chose the right music, lighting, blind folded him and told him not to peek until I gave the word...(my husband, that is).....we had a low level coffee table........and I started our evening and fulfilled my fantasy.
I even made him get his money out. =)

To see the LOOK on his face, the WAY he looked at me while I did it.......I mean, he is attracted to me, always has been....but it was like he was seeing me as a totally different person. It was TOTALLY satisfying, I got to do what I'd wanted, and instead of it being some fat, sweaty, gross guy with sausage fingers who is breathing all heavy in my ear, trying to cop a feel or something .....instead of all THAT grossness, it was my sexy, gorgeous, handsome husband........who could take it a step further than some strip club patron.

So, all of that to say...........give him a private dance, one that he'll never forget. I bet you both will make it a regular part of your relationship!!! I know we did!

Besides all of that.....if you just want attention from other men, all you have to do is dress sexy, and go run your errands. You know you'll have men gawking and staring, and probably a few will come approach you and try to pick you up. IF getting other guy's attention is what you want. If stripping is what you're after, give your husband the thrill.

Answer 3

I think you are glamorizing stripping way to much. You never know what wierdo you are going to meet out there by stripping. You are a mother and a wife for goodness sake. Strip for your husband he will like that alot. You must be missing something out of life in order to want to take all your clothes off for strangers. Cant you get attention with what is between your ears. I bet your just a bored housewife. Try looking for a real job maybe that will get your mind away from stripping in front of a lot of strangers. Be smart you are not only jeapardizing your marriage but your also going to jeapardize your self asteem. You are worth so much more then taking your clothes off of front of horny men. Most of the women who do that sort of thing are either druggies or have been sexually assulted by someone. Please reconcider what you are thinking. Congratulations on losing all that wieght keep up the good work.

Answer 4

I personally dont have a problem with a girl stripping, what you should be aware of is the many problems these girls run into. I saw a staistic that upwards of 80 percent of dancers have been stalked, followed home, etc.,
For safety sake it probably isnt a good idea. I think your hsband would be very intrigued with your fantasy, why dont the two of you talk abaout it. Im sure he'd enjoy you stripping for him, and if he is excited about the prospect of you stippng for others, then at least he could be there to offer some protection for you. Swing clubs often have a dance pole and you wouldnt have to worry about problems from the audience.

Answer 5

Good for you, I say go for it. I too am a mother of two, and am winning the weight loss battle. I have thought about doing that for a long time, but have never had the courage.
It's great money, and what better way to show off your weight loss success.
I like your idea of doing it out of town, just make sure those girlfriends are trustworthy.
Do some research on line of some clubs in the area you will be traveling to. Most offer amateur nights. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I used to work at a strip club and let me tell you that not all women are in the best of shape. And not good looking. If you do decide to strip dont get involved with being friends with any of the girls there. They talk behind your back, when you think they are your friends. I got in a couple of fights and guys get jealous when you sit with them and go to someone else they will want to fight ou and the guy their with, So if you are not afraid to take on a man go for it. But dont get caught up in the game. Not a pretty sight, Girls get raped, its happened to one of the girls, and they found another dead. And if your going to dance do it sober and no drugs. I was the only one sober while all the other girls are acting like hoes showing their pussy for a couple extra bucks. Men like the sober ones usually

Answer 7

I wanted to start by saying what i am going to say is purely from observation and not experience, as i have never been married...

I think you should not strip. Keeping secrets can be a slippery slope towards divorce. If you want to strip, why not for your husband? they have strip aerobic classes in most major cities (and well it may cost for lessons, it's cheaper than a divorce).

lies lead to more lies (albeit it may be a lot of small lies before you do something major) and think about the effect of your actions on your children. and it's severely unlikely that your husband will NEVER find out. People talk and you never know what might pop out of somebody's mouth in the heat of the moment.

Answer 8

Chicken Strips...-

Answer 9

personally i do understand where your coming from at one point i had dropped like 70 pounds i REALLY loved the attention i was getting "i never had it before when i was chubby". However attention and stripping are two different things EVEN THOU i knew people were looking at me who never would have before "and it felt good" i was and am still very loyal to the man i married. I see this as destroying your marriage if you go behind his back and do it. Good luck BE HONEST WITH YOUR HUBBY. I told my hubby how much i liked the attention he understood we both also knew it was not going to lead to me showing off my new body in a sexual manor. I SAY ONLY GO FOR IT WITH HIS APPROVAL.

Answer 10

If you want to strip and not make you husband made you can to a strop class. That is the new way of working out know days and is will help you sex life with your husband. You should check it out. It is a win win situation.