my boyfriend called sunday morning at 4:30. his best friend just past away well he was crying and told me that he hadnt been a good bf and that he wanted to be close friends and he said that he didnt find another girl. he said that he just wanted to be by himself and that he wanted me to wait then we could get back together!!! i dont know how to take it because everytime that i call him he doesnt answer his phone!!! so what should i do??? should i wait??? please be honest with ur answers
2006-10-10 05:28:07 · 17 answers · asked by mustangsweetthing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say wait for him if you really love him. At times when my man is down I like to be by his side. He couldnt tell me we need time apart and if he did trust we were apart and he would call me talking about lets get back together. Men get on a power trip and think they control your life and think that you will wait on them forever. Soe men are immature and dont know what they want in life. He is probably afraid though if he is down and out and he doesnt want you to see it. Thats where their pride comes in. I say dont call him and if afterwhile he calls you and you dont feel the same thats too bad for him. Relationships are not a game and he shouldnt think that he can do that to you. My bf did that to me and when i gave him what he wanted he cried and i left and went to arizona and he cried and paid my way back and called me everyday i was down there. So when he finally gets over himself and stops being a baby and calls, if you dont feel the same oh well his loss.
2006-10-10 05:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Miko L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is going through a rough time right now losing someone that was close to him. He didnt dump you he's needing to be alone and just give him his space and maybe every couple days call and leave him a message on his cell phone telling him you're just checking up on him to make sure he's ok and let him know that you're there for him if he wants to talk. Your boyfriend needs time to deal with the loss of his friend and to begin healing from his grief and to gradually allow people back in his life. He will be ok, but your best bet is to be there for him and continue telling him you love him and you're there for him if he wants to talk.
2006-10-10 05:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's mourning the lost of his best friend and he probably feels like a relationship right now will be to much for him. Don call him anymore because he is going thru a hard time, just let him get his thoughts together. But that doesnt meant that you have to sit around and wait for him.
2006-10-10 05:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would give him a break and let him deal with his anger pain and tears. There are several stages one goes through when there is a death close to you anger is the first one. Some times it takes years to move on. In the mean time you should go on with your life and start dating again until he contacts you this way he can't say you didn't listen to him sounds like he has some issues and begging isn't going to change things let him go for now and move on til he comes to realize how much he misses you he will then chase after you.
2006-10-10 05:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur BF is in grief.Looks like he cant quite handle the situation right now.Most probably he has some guilt feelings about his friend and he acted out on you.However hard it may be, leave him a massage that you understand him and that you will be there for him when he is ready to talk.Im sure in few days he will feel better and be ready to talk to you...
2006-10-10 05:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by florence T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that, if it has been more than 3 days that he won't accept your phone calls, um,yeah. I'ts over,my friend. Just being honest here. But, if I'm right, by ant chance, would you be willing to be my gf? Until then, you've got a really good friend- Me! Kevin Barnard, Bville, 918 335 2955 im1friend@yahoo.com
2006-10-10 06:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem seems to be the death of his friend, so you really don't know what he's going through, he seems to feel guilty,maybe he feels that he should have spent more time with him instead of being with you,I would give him some time, you never know about these things
2006-10-10 05:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by audreylea1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just needs sometime with the passing of his best friend...& maybe their might be some guilt i'm thinking with him saying he hasn't been the best bf...or maybe he is just depressed over all this.....i'd give him sometime if you really want to be with him & if he doesn't come around then you know you have to move on...limit your calls & see if he calls you...hope all turns out well
2006-10-10 05:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by yahooligan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know u love him and he loves u too, he needs time to be alone, just give him some space until the time come u'll know wat to do. U can always find another guy and see how it works out between u and his relationship, there r many guys out there waiting for the right girl, go get 'em.
Stop calling him or else u'll sound desperate
2006-10-10 05:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's freaking out over something he can't handle - his best friend, and changing it to something he can - your relationship. I'd give him some space, and hopefully he will come back. If not, you know where you stand!
2006-10-10 05:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋