What should i do about an inferiority complex?

Question

I use to think my problem was simple jealousy, but lately I have come to find that it is in all actuallity a seemingly severe inferiority complex. It is very troubeling and is greatly affeceting my mood nearly 100% of the time. I also suffer from clynical depression. Does anyone have any advice on how I can conquer this beast and free myself from the worry and live a "normal" life again? Please help.

Answer 1

Many years ago I realized I had a problem. Odd, but I was in a psychology class in college and decided to analyze myself to try to change.

I think many, many people have had enough bad things happen to them that they may end up not achieving their potential. Whatever the reason for depression or a feeling of inferiority, change IS possible.

I began observing people. What is it that happy, well adjusted, successful people are doing differently than me?

So, I began sitting in the front of class. I began sitting at a table in a restaurant in the middle of things, if given a choice. I began smiling MOST all the time. I changed the pace of my walk and my posture. I made a point to listen only to music that had the effect of making me feel more positive. I was ACTING like those people ACTED that seemed to be what I wanted to be. Also, key was that confident people LOOK YOU IN THE EYE. So, I practiced looking people in the eye when talking to them and trying to not be the first to look away. Real work, at first. It becomes natural with time. Observing others, you too will see patterns that describe confidence.

Of course, I still didn't feel the part, but found that more and more I must have looked the part by the way people reacted to me. Do just one thing at a time if it seems too overwhelming. Living in a place with so many people who didn't know me well enough to sterotype me with what they already thought of me helped a great deal too.

After several years of this, it gradually became more of who I am. It has been over 30 years. The inferiority is still in there, but it isn't front and center. More and more I see what abuse from my teacher in high school, as well as a poor attitude toward me from my mother of all people, did to my belief in my right to be here. It was devastating. But, at least I can talk about it now, and know I was not the problem. I can "put on" my actions and it really does make me FEEL so much better. Do it enough and you become confident. You really can believe in yourself. You don't have to live your life finding blame or reasons to be insecure.

I have never had the $ for counseling or analysis from a professional, but I feel your attitude can change. It is work, just like any other task that takes energy, but it is worth it.

Of course, if you feel suicidal or severely depressed to the point you make take hurtful action toward yourself or others, whatever you are doing is not working. I am not a professional and cannot solve deep problems with a few paragraphs. Without money or help from others, these techniques I described helped me. All I can hope is that they will help you some as well. Seeking help on your level to seek it is a good thing. Seeking help through this process has to be a good thing as well. I hope you receive lots of ways people have found help. For lots have found it.

Mr. Rogers helped me believe in the special important qualities each one of us possesses just from being alive. At first I thought he was the most ridiculous, insincere, hoaky fruitcake I had ever seen, but had him on to give my children the right guidance, politically correct and all of that. But as time went on, I realize how genuinely sincere he was. He truly believed in each one of us. I know he did, for somehow or other I do too, now. Given love and nurturance, we each can grow our potential to the point that we and those around us know we are making a difference in a positive way to everything around us just by being ourselves and sharing our joy of being alive another day.

All the best to you. Find the good in yourself and water it just as you would a plant. Grow with joy a little each day. Some days are setbacks, but the direction is good. Know that you are valuable, and know that you are loved by the planet that nurtured you into existence."There is no one just like you, and we love you just the way you are," as Mr. Rogers would say. . .

Answer 2

asserting you do no longer hate Jews, yet hate Zionists is definitely anti-Semitic. tremendously much all Jews are Zionists (as with maximum Christians and people international huge). Being a Zionist in basic terms implies you have faith contained in the desire for a Jewish state. right this moment, the Jewish people have a rustic (Israel), and Israel actual has a valid proper to exist. people who declare, "i do unlike Zionists because of the fact xxxxxxx" are certainly very anti-Semitic. those people do no longer take each element under consideration, and in easy terms blame Jews for those issues. Do people no longer understand that singling out Jews for each situation is anti-Semitism (and not anti-Zionism)?

Answer 3

take a good deep sleep and forget your worries even for just a few minutes when you wake up you'll find the answer to your question. you deserve to be happy!..