my boyfriend called sunday morning at 4:30. his best friend just past away well he was crying and told me that he hadnt been a good bf and that he wanted to be close friends and he said that he didnt find another girl. he said that he just wanted to be by himself and that he wanted me to wait then we could get back together!!! i dont know how to take it because everytime that i call him he doesnt answer his phone!!! so what should i do??? should i wait??? please be honest with ur answers
2006-10-10 05:17:44 · 7 answers · asked by mustangsweetthing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he just lost his best friend. ok this is probably as bad as loosing a brother. he needs a very close friend right now and that is u. go to his house and hug him or something. he needs u but give him some space too. he is probably like me. he likes to be alone and no one disturb him. just make sure that he knows that u will not leave. if u love him then stay with him through it. this is a bad time for him and he needs u. don't ask him if ur getting back together. ask him if he needs a hug and a friend cuz u wil do both. love him all the same but take care of him. tell him taht he has not been a bad bf. tell him that u love him and that u will always be there to take care of him like u want him to take care of u. good luck. just take good care of him. good luck again.
2006-10-10 05:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by ryan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so I'm not a guy, but I kinda have an answer for you too! Umm... my boyfriend had a similar thing happen to him. He didn't break up with me, but his Grandma died and he was really hurt by it. I tried to comfort him, but it didn't really help. At the funeral he was crying and it was his mom who went and comforted him. I just stood back. Sometimes thats what we need to do, stand back. You probably can't imagine what he's going through right now. Send him a card in the mail since he won't answer the phone and tell him how sorry you are and that you are there for him when he needs you. Hopefully once the funeral and all the initial shock is gone he will be able to come to you again and the two of you can be happy. Maybe even make him some cookies or something and just drop them off at his house. You need to let you know that you are there for him, but that you are stepping back and honoring his wishes. Best of Luck, hun.
2006-10-10 12:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Catch a Falling Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, life is a recurring series of little tragedies for most people with a few triumphs mixed in. Most normal people learn to deal with these tragedies without throwing they're friends under a bus. Sounds to me like this guy has a maturity issue to contend with. You can either wait him out and hope he does'nt pull this crap everytime something does'nt go his way or look for a more mature mate who's capable of dealing with life's inequities without falling apart. I also think maybe he used his friends death as an excuse to distance himself from you. He's probably running around with someone else and when he's tired of them he'll be back scratching on your door.
2006-10-10 12:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by stevekc43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soundsl ike your BF is going down a tunne lalone and wants time . Sadly , it is unfair for you to sit and wait , you should not have to.this is an choice you will have ot make since you know your feelings and know him best.Is he worth thewait ? How long will you wait and will this relationship keepo having this issue each tiem he goes through a tough time ?
he either must allow you to be part ofthe bad times i nhis life or he must aloow you ro move on , it is not fair for you to wait for him to make lifes journey solo and only have you around whe nHE WANST YOU !
you have wanst and needs and dreams and if he cant share these with you the nmove on .
Sorry hun but I think he should be left behind and shown the door since he cant deal with lifes tradgeies with you by his side then you dont need someone who shuts down like that.
2006-10-10 12:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? 12 years old. Oldest trick in the book
He is using something call "emotional blackmail". It tend to be used by follow family member to coheres money or favor from one another but this is your boyfriend whom slip this trick in to your conversation.
If he want an open relationship he should just ask. Using the death of his friend is bull ****. do you think he will wait for you while you go hunting for anther boy friend?
Look for himself? HA AA more like looking for 1-900-hot hot.
you just need to put him in the town dump.
2006-10-10 12:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to cut this guy some slack, his best friend just died for heavens sake! A few years ago when my Dad died I felt unable to communicate with my wife and spent a week hardly saying a word to her-but the funeral service gave me some closure and from that point on I was able to talk normally with my wife.
Maybe this is a similar thing...........or maybe he is lying and has someone else-depends how much you trust him.
2006-10-10 12:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, he was drunk and dosen't remember the converstaion. Forget about him and find yourself a solid, mature man.
2006-10-10 12:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Michael E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋