I have been best friends with a girl for 8 years now and while we have always flirted with the idea of taking our friendship to the next level, the timing has never been right. She got married young while I was away with the military and now she (and her husband) knows that she rushed into things. They are unhappy with each other and don't want the same things out of life (one wants kids, etc etc). He treats her like crap because he is unhappy and she is to the point where she doesn't care if he leaves and is even contemplating leaving him. I believe I am the one for her and I think she knows I'm the one for her, but is it my place to tell her how I feel since she is still married? I think I could be the one to make her happy like he obviously can't, but I'm torn because I know how sacred a marriage is. Help!
2006-10-10 05:11:05 · 7 answers · asked by ben_j_mac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has asked to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. Also, she constantly hints that she wants me to say something. She says things like, "If an old friend of mine said the right thing to me I would leave him right now."
2006-10-10 05:31:25 · update #1
LET HER COMPLETE THE FIRST RELATIONSHIP FIRST, BEFORE YOU STEP INTO THE PICTURE.
2006-10-10 05:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be amazed at what can be accomplished by marriage counciling. Most failed marriages don't fail because the two aren't right for eachother, they fail because people aren't willing to work through their differences. This is why people who have been divourced are statistically much more likely to have their next marriage fail. You need to give her a chance to try and work things out. If it doesn't work and the marriage ends, then make your move. Telling her now will probably only confuse her anyway. You've waited 8 years, whats a little longer going to hurt?
2006-10-10 05:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by nitrojunkie78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't play her game...she has to end her marriage because it's not good for her... evidently something is there.... the marriage has lasted 8 years.
You need to put some distance between the two of you.... she's looking for a "rescue".... if the marriage is bad she knows it and would be seeking to end it soon enough.... she knows how you feel, that's why she's feeding you all this information!
Keep her as a friend only.
If she isn't level headed enough to end a bad marriage, why would you want to get involved with her?
2006-10-10 05:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah marriage is sacred and you never want her throwing it in your face that you pushed her to do it. It's her choice to be miserable and you have to either sit and wait for her or rush in and possibly make a mistake or end up HAPPY, You can't put your happiness on hold forever ya know
2006-10-10 05:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by momma whitley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God you know how sacred marriage is.
No, you should not tell her you love her. That would be greatly complicating her situation.
If you truly love her, then you want what is best for her. What is best is to make a good marriage out of the one she already has.
You need to get out of the picture completely and pray for their marriage. God bless!!!
2006-10-10 05:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you jump the gun the guilt from her past relationship could ruin your future one, or atleast play a bad part in it. She got herself into that mess, she's a big girl, let her get herself out of it. Rembember bro women r like snakes, she'll turn on you in a min and blame you for her divorce, when she's comparing you to him. I say she's a piece of crap, trying to push the responisbility on you to ask her outta her marraige. You need a girl who is strong enough to stand on her own to feet, or you'll be looking over yourshoulder all your life. Sit back and watch, see how she handles herself, it'll tell alot about her character. If your bone it already, you *&^^%.
2006-10-10 09:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋