Almost a year ago I had a miscarriage, and had to undergo a DNC. There were complications during the surgery and I had to get transferred to another hospital because I was bleeding to death. I was out of it during most of this, but my boyfriend and mother had to deal with it all the surgeries I had that night to try to get it to stop without removing my ability to have children. I was lucky and they were able to slow it before the next surgery of completely removing my uterus. Now though it seems that he does not want to have another child, citing the cost and stress of more children, (we each of one of our own). He told me before the reason he had bought the house with three bedrooms (he’s son lives with his mother) is because he wanted more children and had broken up with his previous girlfriend because she did not. Do you think he is afraid of what may happen or that he has really changed his mind although now he has a job that pays him twice then when I was pregnant? Thanks.
2006-10-10 05:10:27 · 7 answers · asked by Jenn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband had an affair and we worked through it and are now 7 weeks pregnant. Everyman does things differently. He handled his grief in the wrong way in my opinion, but I totally shut him out, so it's a catch 22. He was very hesitant about having another baby because he didnt' want to risk losing me, I nearly died when I had my miscarriage and spent over a week in the hospital so it scared the crap out of him. We finally went to the doctor and he convinced him that everything was okay and that my chances of having a healthy baby were very high, but it took some doing. Good luck to you and yours.
2006-10-10 05:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be scared that it will happen again, cuz it happen to my husband and I after we got pregnant i suffered from 3 miscarriages finally after seeking a dr we were finally able to have a baby born early but we still were able to have a baby, so what i would do is make an appt to see a dr ask him if your all healed up and if trying to get pregnant is a good idea he'll be the one to ask
Good luck
2006-10-10 05:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is afraid to have to go through something like that again. Not only did you lose the baby, but he was probably pretty worried that he was going to lose you too. You should talk this out with him. Maybe the two of you could discuss it with the doctor. What are the chances of something like that happening again? Maybe the doctor can reassure him that it will be ok. Good luck
2006-10-10 05:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be that you sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. He could still want more children, but after seeing what happened to you, he may have become afraid of losing you and/or another baby. Good luck!
2006-10-10 05:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is scared. Have you tried taking him to the doctor with you so the doctor can tell him that the chances of that happenning again is slim and seeing if that helps. He was probabl quite scared when he almost lost you the first time and does not want to risk it again
2006-10-10 05:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by dmizell1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not reading the rest of your question.. to long ..
the answer is ..are we man not humans don't we feel the pain ..don't you think it hurts us as well ...woman dose not have the monopoly on pain I have you know
2006-10-10 05:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it causes strss on the too because they try to be strong for us and not show it
2006-10-10 05:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋