Hello everyone, heres the story: They dated for about a year and a half, one year ago, before she cheated on him. After she cheated on him, he STILL was with her, trying to "work things out". (Which pisses me off) anyway...since then (keep in mind we are all in our EARLY 20's) she has gotten engaged, married and had her first child a few months back. All which she likes to call/text my guy about (which I think is to make him feel bad, like look what I have you dont type of thing, cause she is a dumb *itch). I started dating my guy about 7 months ago, which the first few months I kept quiet about her messages, until I told him to stop talking to her because he would always be mad/depressed after he talked to her. He told her that now since she has a family, they shouldnt speak anymore, and she said 'no, its ok'..not getting the hint, and she still continues to message him about every other week. What can i do to make her get the hint? When my bf handles it, she doesnt get it.
2006-10-10 05:08:05 · 4 answers · asked by HlpMePlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Basically, I am asking should I get involved? It makes me really upset and I am just tired of her "controling" him. He says he only cares about me and that is why he has tried to stop communication, but when I get upset, he just doesnt care.
2006-10-10 05:10:11 · update #1
You need to understand, that he has no control over what she does. You sound like you are really angry at her, but you are taking it out on him. He needs your support and love right now. I am sure she will get tired of doing this if she gets no response. But obviously she knows it bothers you so she will continue until YOU refuse to let it bother you anymore. After all, he is with you now, so you have nothing to worry about. Just relax and enjoy your man. Have a good time. You will feel much better after you let it go, and so will your guy.
2006-10-10 05:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are trying to control him. If he really didn't want to talk to her, he wouldn't. He is a grown man and believe me, if he wanted to make it known to her he didn't want to talk to her, she would get the hint. If you get involved, you are just going to look like the insecure girlfriend. I am so sorry that I am saying these things to you because I know they are hard to hear, but please just think about it. He still loves her and it sounds to me like you were basically his rebound girl and he still isn't over her. Get rid of him and get someone who will love you and not live in the past. Good luck.
2006-10-10 12:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun im my opinion he still cares for her and just doesn't want to admit it. you have to consider that they did go out for a year and a half and your just with him for a few months. now im NOT trying to put you down but im just telling you that if you want your guy to be all yours and for her not to be in his life anymore you should try talking to your guy more about this and GET MORE involved in this because after all you ARE his lady.
2006-10-10 12:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Blacky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HIS EXCUSE WAS TO LAME, HE NEEDS TO BE MORE FORCEFUL.
2006-10-10 12:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋